We’ve all heard the mantra: exercise is crucial for a healthy lifestyle. While we recognize this truth, translating it into action can often feel like an uphill battle.
I’m not addressing the unrealistic standards set by the media. Forget about that noise. There’s no need to impose absurd expectations by comparing ourselves to digitally altered images of others. That comparison game is just disheartening.
Think about the conversations you might have with your healthcare provider, who emphasizes that regular exercise is one of the best ways to prioritize your well-being. Or those moments when you feel drained, yet you know that engaging in some physical activity would lift your spirits, but exhaustion holds you back.
And then there’s that relentless inner critic. You know the one—the voice that seems to echo louder when you’re feeling down about yourself. It’s the one berating you with phrases like, “Get off the couch, you slacker. Do something productive. You used to look so much better. Why even bother?”
These thoughts are all too common among women, myself included. But how often do we counter those negative messages with affirmations like, “I am worth it. I deserve this time for self-investment. I will prioritize my mental and physical health.”
As I approach 42, I’ve spent nearly three decades engaging in various forms of exercise. My journey has taken me from disdain to acceptance, and then to the challenge of re-establishing a routine after having three children. And trust me, that was no easy feat.
Yet, the struggle of not exercising was even greater. When I skipped workouts, I felt irritable and anxious. My critical voice would resurface, but when I committed to movement, it quieted down. I genuinely like myself more when I dedicate time to exercise regularly—at least a few days each week. It’s about carving out moments for myself, whether that means enjoying the outdoors or hitting the gym after finding a sitter for the kids. Remember, exercising is an investment in you, and you, dear reader, are absolutely worth it.
When I shifted my mindset from self-criticism to self-investment, I developed a passion for movement that I never had before. In my 40s, I find myself in better shape than I was in my 20s. Exercise became my therapy, a constant presence in my life that I know will continue until my last breath. I never think, “I regret that amazing workout.”
The secret to loving exercise, which took me a couple of decades to discover, is this: if your motivation for exercising is solely about maintaining a specific size, it’s time to reassess your reasons.
It may sound absurd—many people exercise to shed pounds or maintain a slim figure. However, the pattern is familiar: we push ourselves to reach a certain size, then what? We get sidetracked after a weekend away, or we hit our goal weight and start skipping workouts. Those skipped days turn into weeks, and soon enough, we find ourselves reminiscing about how committed we used to be. The cycle of negative thoughts begins anew, fostering a sense of hopelessness that can deter us from trying again.
About six years ago, during a challenging period, I turned to exercise as a coping mechanism for stress. It became my sanctuary—a space where I could listen to music and release all my negative emotions. Rather than forcing myself to work out, I transformed that energy into something positive. My soul craved this release, and I quickly realized that exercise provided benefits beyond physical fitness.
After a workout, I felt revitalized and alive. It became a cherished date with myself. I began looking forward to it, motivated by the need for mental wellness rather than the pressure of achieving a certain size. Regular movement instilled a sense of self-love within me.
We often hear that love begets love. We’re taught to treat others as we wish to be treated, and I wanted my body to respond positively. Thus, I committed to nourishing it (mostly—because who doesn’t enjoy the occasional fried food or chocolate?) and moving it. That’s when I truly began to see a return on my investment, manifesting as strength and clarity of mind.
I won’t sugarcoat it—exercise requires effort, and there will be days when throwing in the towel seems tempting. However, if you approach it with self-love as your motivation, your perspective on exercise will shift, and it will become a consistent part of your life.
Don’t hesitate to carve out time for yourself. Your loved ones can spare a half-hour a few times a week. They will notice your happiness, and everyone will benefit from your commitment to self-care. By taking care of your body, you set a powerful example for them, and you’ll witness the magic unfold—both physically and mentally.
Ultimately, remember that investing in yourself is vital, and you are worthy of that investment. Don’t let anyone—or that inner critic—tell you otherwise.
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Summary:
Exercise is more than a physical activity; it’s a vital investment in your well-being. By shifting your mindset from criticism to self-love, you can cultivate a passion for movement that enriches both your body and mind. Remember, you deserve to prioritize your health and happiness, so don’t let anything or anyone convince you otherwise.