Panic attacks can be some of the most frightening experiences for those who suffer from anxiety disorders, yet they remain widely misunderstood. These episodes often manifest as intense feelings of fear and dread, but their expression can vary significantly among individuals. While some may exhibit outward signs such as hyperventilating or crying, others might withdraw and become quiet. This disparity can make it challenging for friends and loved ones to effectively support someone in the midst of a panic attack.
With over 40 million individuals in the U.S. facing anxiety disorders, it’s crucial for everyone to recognize the signs of a panic attack and know how to assist those affected. To shed light on this topic, we spoke with individuals from our mental health community to gather insights on what they wish their friends understood about their experiences during panic attacks. Remember, since anxiety can manifest differently in everyone, it’s always a good idea to ask your friends how you can best support them.
Here’s what they shared:
- Emily T.: “It’s hard to explain what triggers my panic attacks. Sometimes I don’t even know why they happen. Just being there and holding my hand is what helps the most.”
- Jake L.: “Panic attacks are draining. Afterward, I often feel completely wiped out and may need to rest for days.”
- Sarah P.: “Telling me to ‘just stop thinking about it’ isn’t helpful. It’s not a choice when I feel nauseous, weak, or terrified.”
- Nina R.: “I wish my friends understood why I might cancel plans last minute or prefer smaller gatherings. Sometimes the thought of being in a crowded place makes it worse.”
- Mark D.: “Pointing out my symptoms doesn’t help. I’m already aware of my trembling hands or stuttering, and I don’t need reminders.”
- Jessica H.: “Panic attacks can strike unexpectedly. I need a safe space to breathe and reassure myself. I promise I’ll return when I’m ready.”
- Adam K.: “Please be nearby, but also give me space to recover. During an attack, I might feel overwhelmed and restless.”
- Tara W.: “Sometimes a hug or holding hands can feel suffocating. It’s better if you just sit with me and provide a calm presence.”
- Olivia S.: “Each panic attack is terrifying, regardless of how many I’ve had. They don’t get easier, and understanding how my body reacts doesn’t lessen the fear.”
- Ben J.: “During an attack, I might go quiet or seem distant. Just because I look calm doesn’t mean I’m not struggling internally.”
- Mia F.: “In public, if I say I need to leave, please take me seriously. I feel like I’m about to faint, and it’s not about wanting attention.”
- Kevin A.: “My personality remains the same, even if I need to cancel plans or seem withdrawn. Just give me time to recover.”
- Lila C.: “Panic attacks aren’t always dramatic. Sometimes they’re just me focusing on my breathing in a crowded room.”
- Ryan B.: “If you could find my headphones or help me get away from a crowd, that would be great. Calm reassurance helps too.”
- Sophia N.: “Panic attacks don’t define me. They’re just a part of my experience that I have to manage.”
- Josh E.: “This isn’t just a bad day. It can become physically hard for me to breathe and think clearly.”
- Laura G.: “It’s often a combination of factors that lead to an attack. It can be overwhelming and exhausting.”
- Chris H.: “Please don’t panic yourself or bombard me with questions I can’t answer. It makes the situation worse.”
- Rachel T.: “If I ask the same question multiple times, it’s because I’m trying to convince myself I’m not in danger.”
- Sam W.: “I don’t want anyone’s pity. I just need your support, whether that’s listening to me vent or allowing me to cry.”
In summary, understanding panic attacks is essential for supporting friends who experience them. They can be unpredictable and frightening, but with empathy and awareness, you can provide the comfort they need. For more information on related topics, such as pregnancy and supportive resources, check out this excellent resource on pregnancy and this insightful article on at-home insemination kits.