Let’s be honest: I had a complete breakdown this past weekend… during spring break… while stuck in the car… returning from an exhausting eight-hour road trip. Not exactly my proudest moment.
For teachers and parents, spring break is supposed to be a time for relaxation and family bonding. However, for many mothers, it quickly turns into a whirlwind of packing, unpacking, laundry, and preparing the kids to transition back to their routines once the break is over. That was me—operating at full throttle, reaching what felt like a crisis point.
Over the past several months, I’ve been juggling the demands of raising children, managing a high-pressure job, keeping the house in order, growing my online presence (essentially two full-time jobs), caring for my son’s special needs, paying attention to my health and rising weight, and navigating the challenges of my husband and I working opposite shifts. This chaotic blend of responsibilities swirls around in my anxious mind, keeping me awake at night and distracting me during the day.
The reality hit me hard: I felt like I was failing.
It all culminated in a moment of vulnerability… in the middle of the West Virginia mountains. I just couldn’t hold it together anymore.
As I mentally processed my overwhelming to-do list, which was spiraling out of control, I paused and said to my husband with tears I tried to hide, “Babe, I can’t do this anymore.” We had a heartfelt conversation—I finally opened up. He had no idea how overwhelmed I was.
Instead of adding to my endless list of chores (or creating new ones just to cross them off—am I the only one guilty of this?), I have started to learn how to say no.
- No, I won’t be bringing anything to the staff potluck next week.
- No, I can’t attend your event next weekend.
- No, we won’t be chaperoning prom.
- No, I can’t take on more tutoring after school. This one stings, friends. But I simply cannot do it.
This journey is challenging. It feels uncomfortable and sometimes even wrong. Yet, dear friends, it is essential for our well-being. Many mothers are incredible, achieving what seems impossible. Nevertheless, we need to recognize that we can’t do it all—and we’re not meant to.
The dishes will still be there later. I can opt for a walk during lunch instead of spending hours at the gym this month. My kids won’t suffer if I prioritize sleep over keeping them in bed at night. And my husband is more than willing to help if I just communicate my needs.
I’m at the early stages of embracing this word that feels taboo to utter: a simple two-letter word laden with guilt and shame. I understand that if I continue to say yes to everything that clutters my to-do list and drains my joy, I will only exhaust myself further, ultimately being less present for my husband, my children, and myself.
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Summary
In the whirlwind of parenting and daily obligations, it’s crucial to learn the power of saying no. By prioritizing what truly matters, we can alleviate stress and be more present for our families. Embracing this simple yet profound word can lead to a healthier, happier life.