Some individuals seem to have an innate talent for motherhood, brimming with maternal instincts, while others of us might feel like we’re merely pretending. Personally, I never envisioned my life filled with children; in fact, I was often unsure about how to interact with kids. My partner, Jake, had changed more diapers before our first child arrived than I had in a lifetime. You might assume that having five kids comes easily to me, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Thankfully, life has a way of leading us to where we need to be.
If you find yourself relating to any of the following signs, you’re not alone:
- No Interest in Holding Babies
While babies are undeniably adorable, the thought of holding someone else’s child doesn’t appeal to you. You have your own little ones to care for. - Oblivious to Other Kids
You often don’t notice the children around you, including your own. When visiting friends, you might completely miss their kids playing nearby, preferring to maintain the adult conversation instead. You realize your adult interactions are dwindling, but the idea of jumping into playtime feels daunting. - Delayed Recognition
Some days, your kids might call your name five times before it clicks. - Struggling to Differentiate Between Kids and Adults
You have a hard time treating children differently from adults, often expecting them to behave with the same focus and responsibility. Just get dressed! Just read the book! Just spit the toothpaste in the sink and not on my shoe! - Not Friends with Your Kids
If your children were peers, you might not choose to hang out with them. Who wants a friend that pees on the floor and throws tantrums over snack choices? Luckily, their cuteness and cuddles can soften your heart. - Solo Bathroom Time is Sacred
Even those who seem naturally maternal can agree on this. While a moment alone is blissful, you can’t help but worry about what mischief might unfold in your absence. - Dislike for Noise
The sound of crying—and loud noises in general—can be overwhelming. Messiness is also not your favorite. - Intentional Parenting Efforts
Every teaching moment and playful activity requires deliberate thought and effort. You consciously decide to engage with your kids, rather than it happening spontaneously. - Babysitting Avoidance
You’ve always shied away from babysitting, particularly for children who are older or of a different gender than your own. Their unfamiliarity makes you apprehensive. - Deep Love for Your Children
Even if you don’t feel like a natural parent, your love for your kids is profound. You worry about your shortcomings and feel heartache over moments of perceived failure. You pray for their wellbeing, and their hugs and smiles mean the world to you.
Can you relate to any of these signs? Share your own experiences of “unnatural” parenting moments. Remember, you are doing a great job!
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Summary
Motherhood can be a challenging experience for many, especially for those who don’t feel the instinctive pull towards parenting. This article outlines ten signs that indicate you might not find motherhood comes naturally to you, while also emphasizing the deep love and commitment many parents feel for their children despite their struggles.