I embrace my body, even when it fluctuates in size. I’ve experienced weight loss and gain over the years, but I’ve made a commitment to recognize my beauty and find happiness at every stage. I fill my social media feed with body-positive influencers and follow plus-size fashion bloggers to connect with the experiences of women like me.
There’s a multitude of opinions about body image, particularly concerning plus-size women. While some express concern for our health, others resort to derogatory terms. Yet amidst the negativity, there’s also a wealth of love and inspiration. The stories shared by women create a sense of community, leading to those gratifying “me too!” moments. Social media has opened the door for such connections, and I appreciate witnessing them unfold.
However, there’s a recurring theme that troubles me. When a man publicly expresses admiration for a plus-size woman, he often receives undue praise for simply loving her. This reaction can elevate him to an almost heroic status, as if he’s performed an extraordinary act of kindness, akin to rescuing a cat from a tree. The assumption tends to be that he’s sacrificing his ideals by loving someone who doesn’t fit the conventional mold of beauty.
Many women internalize this notion that being anything other than thin is a personal failing. I understand why. The relentless messaging that fat bodies are unacceptable is exhausting. But the idea that men should be lauded for loving us? That’s disheartening.
My husband should not be commended for loving me; rather, it’s a mutual partnership. I am a supportive partner, a devoted friend, and a wonderful mother to our children. I bring humor and intelligence to our relationship, and my contributions to our family unit are invaluable. If he had overlooked me because of my size, he would have missed out on 14 years of love and joy.
My size does not diminish my worth; I am not a consolation prize or a second choice. I consider myself a first-place trophy, shining and vibrant. He does not deserve accolades for choosing to love me; his reward lies in the depth of our love for each other.
So let’s stop handing out awards for love that should be a natural part of any partnership. My husband is already winning simply by being with me.
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In summary, love should not come with a side of accolades; it should be about mutual respect and appreciation. Recognizing our worth is vital, and we shouldn’t settle for anything less than what we deserve.