Navigating the journey of being an unemployed mom can be complex and filled with unexpected challenges. While it’s not a walk in the park, it doesn’t have to be a total nightmare either. Some days feel more challenging than others, often influenced by my mood or the interactions I have with others. Unfortunately, a few well-meaning comments can drastically shift my day for the worse. To help you avoid being that person, here are five things you should refrain from saying to an unemployed mom (like me).
1. “What do you do all day?”
I understand the curiosity, but please, don’t go there. Being unemployed doesn’t equate to lounging around or being on vacation. What do I do all day? I’m actively seeking employment! My day consists of hunting for job listings, submitting applications, prepping for interviews, networking, and researching. It’s a full-time job in itself, even if it doesn’t come with a paycheck.
And don’t forget, I’m still a mom! My days are filled with laundry, cleaning, cooking, and all the other responsibilities that come with motherhood. So when you ask what I do all day, just know that it’s a lot more complex than it appears.
2. “Have you tried (insert suggestion here)?”
I appreciate your willingness to help, but let’s be real—I’ve probably tried that suggestion already. I’m just as eager to find a job as you are to help me. I want it to be a good fit for my skills and lifestyle. Instead of suggesting things, consider asking how my search is going or how you might lend support. Trust me; I want this more than anyone else.
3. “So, are you a stay-at-home mom now?”
No, I’m not. I’m in a transitional phase, and it’s crucial for my mental well-being that I don’t slip into the stereotype of a stay-at-home mom. While motherhood is rewarding, it’s not the only role I identify with. I thrived in my career, and I need to keep that part of my identity intact. Yes, raising children is a monumental task, but I believe it’s essential to find a balance that works for me and my family.
4. “Why don’t you just keep the kids at home instead of daycare while you’re looking for a job?”
This suggestion can come off as dismissive of my efforts. The truth is, I wouldn’t be able to effectively search for a job if I had my little ones at home. Many who say this haven’t experienced the challenges of caring for toddlers, and that’s okay—they simply don’t know what it’s like. Instead of assuming it would be easier to keep them home, think about how overwhelming juggling job searches with childcare can be.
5. “I don’t know why you don’t just (insert lofty goal here).”
Comments like “write a book” or “start a business” sound exciting, but they often overlook the practical challenges involved. These endeavors require time, resources, and experience that I simply don’t have at the moment. While I appreciate your confidence in me, I’m currently focused on finding a stable job to support my family. Let’s take it one step at a time, shall we?
In summary, being an unemployed mom comes with its own set of unique obstacles. It’s important to approach the topic with sensitivity and understanding. If you’re curious about artificial insemination or planning for a family, you might find this resource on home insemination kits helpful. For more in-depth information on family planning, check out Healthline’s pregnancy resource. Remember, everyone’s journey is different, and a little compassion goes a long way.