I find myself pondering how we arrived at this point—this very bed that should belong solely to your father and me but now accommodates our entire family: two parents, two dogs, and three children. While we are fortunate to have enough beds for everyone, we have somehow ended up in a tangled, exhausted pile. It’s time for a change.
As your mother, my primary role is to meet your needs, but I am also a person with my own needs—one of which is sleep. I fondly recall the days when you were infants and began sleeping through the night. Those nights were blissful! I felt like I was twirling in a field of flowers, and both my skin and sanity thrived. It was a happier time for all of us.
However, nighttime has shifted from a peaceful retreat to an ongoing ordeal. You’re tired, irritable, and I am utterly drained. Here’s a brief overview of a typical evening in our household, using “you” to refer to all of you, as it often feels like a united front against rest and reason. I hope that seeing your actions laid out might inspire some reflection.
- We tuck you into your cozy beds, say goodnight, and close the door.
- Just minutes later, you rush downstairs to share something “critical,” like the fact your sibling touched you or the struggle of rhyming “lettuce.” But let’s be clear: coming out of your room is only acceptable if you have to use the bathroom or are actually bleeding.
- After a brief interval, I settle on the couch with a glass of wine, only for you to decide you need assistance with your bodily functions, requiring me to abandon my cozy spot.
- Back to your room you go, only to reappear later, lamenting the slow arrival of morning. We threaten to remove your stuffed animals if you don’t stay put.
- A little longer passes, and you’re back, feeling lonely because your sibling is asleep. You guilt one of us into lying down with you until you finally drift off.
- By 11 p.m., I’m ready to call it a night myself.
- Just as I reach a deep sleep, one of you appears in my room—adorably sleepy and demanding to be snuggled, while I struggle to find comfort around your sprawled limbs.
- WHACK! Suddenly, I’m jolted awake by a kick to the face. This bed has designated zones: a “face place” and a “feet place,” and somehow the rules are being ignored.
- Then, another child joins the mix around 3 a.m., which requires shifting and waking up yet again.
- Finally, a third child makes an appearance just before my alarm goes off, squeezing in and delivering a head-butt. With elbows in my ribs and feet in uncomfortable places, I’m left with little choice but to rise and face the day.
Can you see how chaotic this has become? I hope you recognize it too. I’m not sure how much longer we can sustain this arrangement. Just one night of peaceful sleep would be a fantastic start. Let’s consider this, please.
Love, Mom
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In summary, the challenge of co-sleeping with children can become overwhelming, leading to exhaustion for parents. By establishing boundaries and encouraging independent sleep, families can foster healthier nighttime routines.
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