As a child, I believed that adulthood came with all the answers. However, the reality is that we’re all just navigating life as best we can. With age, I’ve learned to evaluate my priorities and recognize what truly drains my emotional energy. We each have a finite amount of care to expend, and sometimes it’s crucial to reassess our emotional budget to avoid running on empty. Here are some things I’ve decided not to spend my precious energy on anymore:
- Always Being Nice
I’ve spent too much time trying to please everyone and avoiding confrontation. As I mature, I find that I care less about keeping everyone comfortable at the expense of my own well-being. It’s essential to distinguish between being kind and merely being nice. Sometimes, you must shed the “good girl” image and advocate for yourself. - The Royal Family
While I appreciate a cute baby as much as anyone, the obsession with the Royal Family has grown tiresome. We’ve seen enough of Duchess Kate post-baby, and honestly, I don’t have the bandwidth to keep up with their lives anymore. - My Kids’ Fortnite Games
I love that my kids can entertain themselves, but when dinner time rolls around, I have zero patience for their “just one more minute” excuses. Dinner is non-negotiable. They need to wrap up their virtual battles quickly! - Popularity
It still stings a bit to see friends out together while I’m at home in my comfy clothes. But then I remember how much I enjoy my cozy evenings without the hassle of socializing. I have enough difficulty scheduling time with my existing friends, so I have no interest in expanding my social circle. - Petty Drama
I generally try to give people the benefit of the doubt and avoid negativity. But if someone crosses me, I have no tolerance for petty behavior. I prefer to surround myself with positivity and genuine intentions. - Your Sales Pitch
I’m all set with leggings and skin creams. My toothpaste works perfectly fine, thanks for asking! Spare me the unsolicited recommendations. - Swearing
Despite what my mother thinks, I have a fondness for colorful language. I find it cathartic, and my kids have picked up on this habit. As long as they know when it’s appropriate, I don’t mind their occasional swearing. - Fake People
As I’ve matured, my ability to spot disingenuous individuals has sharpened. I have no energy for phoniness or mean-spiritedness—it’s a hard pass for me. - Bedtime Routines
I aim for a smooth bedtime routine, but chaos often reigns. We’re usually scrambling to bed, and the kids end up reading under covers long after lights out. My own bedtime? Let’s just say it rarely happens as intended. - Family Fashion Choices
Whether my son is wearing shorts in winter or my daughter is in the same shirt for days, I’ve learned to let go of fashion expectations. As long as we’re all dressed, I’m not concerned. - Toxic Relationships
I’m sensitive and care deeply about others, but I refuse to allow toxic individuals to drain my joy. If you bring negativity to my life, it’s time to say goodbye. - Boredom
As summer approaches, I brace myself for the inevitable “I’m bored!” complaints. But honestly? I don’t care. Boredom can spark creativity. Go create an adventure, or if all else fails, I have some closets that need organizing. - Shoulds
We all have our “shoulds”: eat healthier, exercise more, practice mindfulness. But honestly? Forget the “shoulds.” We do our best when we can, and that’s enough.
Life is too short to waste on trivial matters. We must be judicious with our emotional energy and focus on what truly matters—like family and meaningful work. Adulting comes with its fair share of responsibilities, but it’s also about embracing the freedom to say, “I don’t give a f***,” and move on.
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