As I recently celebrated my 45th birthday, I find myself reflecting on the journey of motherhood and life itself. Approaching 50 feels like an inevitable milestone, and I can’t help but ponder what it truly means to be a middle-aged woman in today’s world. With gravity playing its tricks and the inevitability of aging, I’m reminded of the valuable lessons learned over the years.
In the quiet moments before sleep, I often revisit the first 45 years of my life. It’s been a rollercoaster filled with moments of joy—like the birth of my cherished daughter, the thrill of falling in love with my partner after a challenging divorce, and fulfilling my late grandmother’s dream of telling stories through writing. However, it has also been marked by heart-wrenching experiences, such as the pain of a miscarriage, the betrayal by a close friend, and the profound grief of losing my mother to cancer. Yet, through it all, I’ve managed to rise again, ready for whatever comes next.
Here are 45 insights I’ve gathered along the way:
- Envy can sneak up on you like an uncomfortable waistband—readjust as needed.
- Stand firm in your beliefs; conviction is key.
- Unload emotional baggage before embarking on new relationships.
- Marry for love—it’s the foundation of a lasting partnership.
- Don’t neglect your aspirations while supporting others in theirs.
- Take that leap forward; it’s essential for growth.
- Avoid extreme diets; carbs can be your friend.
- Trust someone’s true nature upon first revelation; you can’t change them.
- Curate a playlist that resonates with your current feelings and crank it up.
- A sprinkle of salt can remedy many things—tears, sweat, or a tasty snack.
- Help your children discover their own paths rather than imposing your dreams.
- Pride can be a barrier; don’t hesitate to ask for help.
- Give yourself grace; transformation takes time.
- Be boldly and unapologetically yourself.
- Recognize your value and never settle for less.
- Balance selflessness with self-care.
- Cherish long-term friendships while welcoming new connections.
- Stay true to your authentic self; your words matter.
- Keep hope alive.
- If work feels burdensome, consider a change.
- Cultivate resilience; challenges are part of life.
- When in doubt, a caffeine boost can help.
- Apologize only when warranted; don’t take on others’ mistakes.
- Love with abandon—be passionate and fearless.
- Treat yourself to self-care moments; you deserve it.
- Grief is the price of love—embrace it, don’t resist it.
- Avoid worrying prematurely; focus on the present.
- Maintain your sense of wonder.
- Don’t allow anger to take permanent residence in your heart.
- Life is humorous; find joy in your own quirks.
- Authenticity matters—don’t fake laughter.
- Write heartfelt letters to express your feelings.
- Strive for fairness in disagreements; acknowledge valid points.
- Embrace your imperfections; they are part of your story.
- Set high standards for how you wish to be treated.
- Nourish your body and soul in every way possible.
- Avoid harmful words that could damage loved ones; vent into a pillow if needed.
- Be grateful for each new day.
- Good friends are invaluable—don’t overlook their worth.
- Take time to stargaze and connect with the universe.
- Age is just a number; embrace your inner child.
- Others’ opinions of you are irrelevant.
- Time is fleeting—cherish every moment.
- You possess a unique kind of magic.
- Flash that smile; you’ve got this.
What have your first 45 years taught you?
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Summary:
Reflecting on my 45 years has led me to recognize important life lessons, from the significance of self-worth and authentic relationships to the value of personal growth and resilience. Embracing these insights can guide us through the complexities of life.