As a parent, I’ve found myself in a whirlwind of emotions when my toddler exhibits challenging behavior, particularly when it comes to hitting. Having spent years as an educator in diverse environments—from underprivileged inner-city schools to a rural orphanage in India—I’ve encountered a wide range of student behaviors. During those times, I often wondered about the home lives of my students. Were they being neglected? Overexposed to screens? Lacking structure? As humans, we seek explanations and sometimes, scapegoats.
Now, as a mother, I’m here to declare that my child, like many other toddlers, can be quite difficult at times, and I refuse to feel ashamed or embarrassed about it. I strive to create a nurturing and stable environment for my son. Currently, I’m a stay-at-home parent, ensuring a consistent routine filled with playdates at various local parks and activities designed to foster social skills. We have family dinners and bedtime rituals that promote a loving and predictable atmosphere.
In our household, we have clear rules: no hitting, slapping, or pushing. Yet, despite this, my son has picked up hitting behavior. The past few months have been challenging, but not for him—he seems unfazed by the repercussions of his actions. Each trip to a playground results in him inadvertently hurting other toddlers. If you’re in his path, taking a moment too long at the slide or grabbing a stray snack from the ground, you might find yourself on the receiving end of a shove or slap.
In the past, I would have rushed to apologize profusely to the parents of the children involved, feeling embarrassed and helpless. However, I’ve recently experienced an awakening. I’ve come to realize that my son is simply a typical toddler, navigating his way through the complexities of early development.
He’s clever, energetic, and fiercely loving, and yes—he hits. It’s not that he’s malicious; he’s just learning about his world, and in these early stages, physical expression often outweighs verbal communication. While I understand that hitting isn’t acceptable, my focus will now be on calmly addressing the behavior without the weight of guilt that once burdened me.
I’m committed to embracing my son’s spirited nature and taking every opportunity to teach him the importance of gentle interactions. I will guide him towards using words and kindness instead of his hands. No longer will I feel the need to label him as “bad” or “naughty.” It’s my role to be his strongest supporter and his most loving teacher, and I intend to fulfill that duty with pride.
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In summary, it’s vital to recognize that toddlers are learning and growing, and their behavior is a part of their developmental journey. As parents, we must support them without allowing guilt to overshadow our experiences.