Yes, you read that correctly. I’m openly admitting it, and I can already hear the gasps from some parents in the room. But before you rush to judge, let me explain my perspective.
This year, my children transitioned to upper elementary school. Walking into the parent orientation, I felt a mix of anxiety and excitement about the changes ahead. The principal took the stage and opened his PowerPoint presentation, which highlighted just three crucial topics: safety, the teaching staff, and school attendance. As the last point appeared, I sensed a few glances directed my way, accompanied by chuckles, as I donned my “don’t mess with momma” expression.
I fully recognize that school attendance is legally mandated, and I’m not advocating for letting my kids stay at home just to avoid a spelling test. However, let’s be real—I’m the one who carried these children for nine long months, taught them how to walk, talk, and navigate life’s challenges. I’m the one who provides for them, from meals to clothes to transportation for their activities. I clean up their messes, endure their tantrums, and enforce necessary but unpopular rules. And yes, I also choose to pull them out of school when it seems right for our family.
While I know there are parents shaking their heads and teachers who might judge me, their opinions don’t dictate my choices—my children’s well-being does. I only take them out of school when I believe the advantages outweigh any potential downsides.
Every year, I sit down with their teachers and assure them of my commitment to my children’s education. I emphasize the importance of hard work, kindness, respect, and trying their best. School matters—there’s no question about that. But in our household, family takes precedence.
When we have the chance to create unforgettable memories, whether through a family trip or a special event with relatives who live far away, we seize those moments, even if it means missing a few school days.
I always make it a point to respect the teachers’ time and efforts. I provide ample notice of our plans, request any assignments they may want my kids to complete while we’re away, and assure them that any missed work will be handled promptly when we return. I understand that as my children grow, this may become more challenging, but I will always prioritize what I believe is best for them—regardless of school calendars.
Spending quality time together as a family and reinforcing our bond is invaluable. I genuinely believe that experiential learning is unparalleled. What’s more impactful: reading about ancient civilizations or exploring historical sites firsthand? Watching a video on natural phenomena or experiencing them in real life? Completing rote math exercises or learning about currency conversion while traveling?
Traveling not only provides educational opportunities but also broadens horizons, fosters empathy, and encourages adaptability—lifelong skills that are essential. Moreover, the learning doesn’t stop when the trip ends. From conducting online research for our destination to journaling about our experiences, there are countless ways for kids to engage their minds. I even have my kids create presentations about what they learned to share with classmates (I know, I can be tough).
As a mother, my role is to ensure my children feel safe, loved, and educated. If they attend school for 160 days instead of 180 but spend a day with their great-grandmother learning about her childhood or bonding with cousins, or savoring gelato in Italy, I see that as a parenting success. That’s why I feel no guilt about choosing what is best for my family over the rigid school calendar.
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In summary, while I understand the importance of education, I firmly believe that family experiences and hands-on learning enrich my children’s lives and education far beyond traditional classroom walls.