Surrogacy is gaining traction as a viable option for families wanting to expand, yet many still find it a perplexing subject. Having been a gestational surrogate myself, I often encountered the same inquiries from family, friends, and even strangers. Here are the three key questions that frequently arose:
Why Did I Choose Surrogacy?
The motivation behind my decision was rooted in love. Picture that blissful moment when your children are peacefully asleep, and you sneak in for one last kiss. That overwhelming affection is what prompted me to assist another couple in experiencing similar joy. Fortunate to have a supportive family, good health, and a functional uterus, I felt compelled to lend my body to friends who needed a helping hand, especially since they were a same-sex couple relying on modern science and gracious individuals like myself—a surrogate and an egg donor.
How Does Surrogacy Work?
Upon deciding to embark on this journey, my family and I quickly recognized the complexity involved and sought professional guidance. We partnered with an agency that helped us navigate the various steps, managing much of the paperwork. After being matched with a couple, I underwent a process similar to in vitro fertilization (IVF), but without the egg retrieval, as traditional surrogacy wasn’t suitable for me.
The process began with hormone treatments to suppress my natural cycle, followed by transferring a frozen embryo. Once I was pregnant, I continued hormone injections until my body stabilized. The pregnancy mirrored my previous experiences but came with heightened emotions—more cravings, more physical discomfort, and more of everything else. My prenatal care was provided locally, and the birth took place in a nearby hospital, with my husband, doula, and one of the dads present. The other dad was en route, eager to meet their new addition.
Would I Do It Again?
Absolutely! If I had to relive the experience, knowing what I do now, I would do it without hesitation. The journey was surreal and transformative. While it was certainly overwhelming at times, I believe it enriched my life and contributed positively to the world by helping another loving family come together. However, if someone were to ask me to be a surrogate again, I might just get a little queasy.
For those interested in the mechanics of home insemination, consider checking out our article on at-home insemination kits. Furthermore, if you want to delve deeper into surrogacy and its intricacies, visit Modern Family Blog, an excellent resource on the subject. Another outstanding reference is Healthline’s overview of IVF, which provides in-depth information on fertility options.
In summary, surrogacy may seem complex, but it ultimately comes down to love, careful planning, and support. The experience can be profoundly rewarding, creating families and fostering deep connections.