By: Sarah Thompson
Updated: Jan. 24, 2023
Originally Published: Jan. 24, 2023
Why is it acceptable that a whole community of broadcast journalists has been conditioned—out of necessity—to suppress their feelings in response to inappropriate and questionable behavior? Why do we convince ourselves that feeling uncomfortable, objectified, or facing sexual harassment—whether in real life or online—is merely “part of the job”?
It should never be standard practice for a station’s orientation to come with a gift of pepper spray and a cautionary note about the “dangerous guy” to avoid. I’m tired of dismissing such behavior with a shrug or an eye roll. The #MeToo movement has opened my eyes to my own complicity. If I don’t recognize or challenge immoral actions, I am, in essence, endorsing them.
When I gaze at my young son, I am committed to raising him to be courteous, compassionate, and respectful toward women. I want him to understand that we are strong and independent individuals who will advocate for ourselves and each other. However, I also recognize he is growing up in a world rife with temptation and poor role models. With the pervasive sexual imagery on social media and readily available pornography, he will encounter numerous messages that contradict my values.
So today, I am setting aside my fears of “overreacting” and pledging to discuss the #MeToo issues openly. I will begin the conversation now, and as he matures and the moment is right, we will tackle these topics. Will these discussions be awkward? Absolutely. Yet, I believe it’s essential for teenage boys to hear about sexual harassment from someone they trust, and I hope that someone is me. Additionally, if he ever finds himself in a troubling or uncomfortable situation, he needs to know that I am here to listen and that speaking up is not only acceptable, but crucial.
Throughout my ten years in television news, I have been fortunate to evade the most severe forms of harassment. Unfortunately, many of my colleagues have not been as lucky. Some have had to seek restraining orders or involve authorities after receiving a staggering number of disturbing messages daily. Did you know that local TV anchors are among the most stalked individuals? This unsettling reality is an unintended consequence of trying to appear approachable and kind. A relevant article in Psychology Today explains this phenomenon well.
Frequently mentioning my marriage helped me avoid many advances. I was perceived as “taken” and therefore less appealing to some, but I want my son to recognize that even non-criminal harassment can be harmful and may lead to more serious issues.
Being in the public eye doesn’t give anyone the right to send explicit messages simply because I posted a #ThrowbackThursday photo from my college cheerleading days. When I walk away after an interview, comments like “nice body” or “you look hot” are not compliments; they are disrespectful. And no, I’m not going to indulge your fantasies by sending you a picture of my feet.
Harassment occurs even in the most public places. I asked some fellow broadcasters to share their experiences, and while I won’t reveal their names to protect their privacy, their stories are eye-opening. One recounted feeling cornered at a local business expo by a man who invaded her personal space and shared graphic fantasies about her. Another shared an unsettling encounter at a charity event where a man made vulgar comments about her appearance while preparing for a dunk tank. These interactions left them feeling violated and humiliated.
Online harassment is rampant as well. Many female broadcasters face a barrage of hateful comments on social media. While constructive criticism is welcome, being called derogatory names is not. I want my son to understand that a screen doesn’t provide anonymity; it doesn’t exempt anyone from basic respect and decency. If you wouldn’t say it to my face, don’t say it online.
The majority of viewers I’ve met have been kind and supportive, and I’ve maintained friendships with many after moving on. Unfortunately, a few bad apples spoil the bunch—and we’re allowing this behavior to continue.
One of my former colleagues emphasized that as television personalities, we are expected to remain polite and agreeable no matter what is thrown our way. But the #MeToo movement is prompting us to rethink this norm. There is strength in unity, and we are becoming bolder and more willing to stand up for ourselves.
Some days, I still smile and nod, but more recently, if someone makes an offensive comment, I respond as myself rather than a public persona. This has surprised many.
I sincerely hope this empowerment continues. It’s time to stop brushing off our collective experiences, even the minor ones. If we ignore harassment, we only perpetuate the cycle.
So, dear son, regardless of what society tells you, remember this:
- The people you see on TV have emotions.
- Compliments should come from a place of kindness, not lust.
- A woman’s attire does not imply consent.
- A warm greeting or genuine inquiry is the best way to start a conversation.
- If you doubt how a comment will be received, it’s probably best not to say it.
- Trust your instincts when something feels off.
- And when in doubt, ask your mother. I love you and will always share the truth with you.
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Summary: In this article, Sarah Thompson addresses the importance of raising her son with an understanding of respect, consent, and the impacts of harassment in today’s society. Drawing from her own experiences as a broadcaster, she emphasizes the need for open discussions about the #MeToo movement and the responsibility that comes with being respectful towards women.