After more than 12 years in the restaurant industry, I’ve donned uniforms and served everything from sushi to burgers. I’ve worked in establishments I adored, primarily due to the fantastic team, and others that I could hardly stand. While many shifts were challenging, they provided profound insights into human behavior and social dynamics that I cherish today.
Throughout my career, I’ve witnessed the full spectrum of human emotion—from joyous engagements to gut-wrenching breakups. I’ve dealt with rowdy customers, acted as an impromptu therapist, and even played matchmaker. A recurring issue I’ve observed, however, revolves around how diners manage their children.
So, on behalf of servers everywhere, I’d like to share some essential tips for dining out with kids.
1. Children Are Our Future—Lead by Example
A person’s true character often emerges in a restaurant setting. Simple gestures like eye contact, smiles, and polite manners can dramatically enhance the dining experience. Unfortunately, some patrons behave as if they were released from a zoo, displaying more resemblance to mischievous monkeys than charming animals. I’ve had a father throw a menu at me for laughs and have been insulted by a mother in front of her kids. Remember, if you’re feeling stressed, take it out at the gym, not on your server. Children absorb everything, so model respectful behavior for them.
2. A Restaurant Isn’t a Playground
Many restaurants are small and crowded, yet some parents let their children run wild while servers navigate with hot plates and drinks. It’s not our responsibility to babysit; our job is to serve food, not to dodge little ones causing chaos. Allowing your child to roam freely poses a danger not just to them but to everyone around them. If your child can’t stay seated, consider using a high chair or, if needed, entertain them with your phone.
3. Tip Generously—Aim for 15% or More
Tipping reflects your appreciation for the service received, regardless of your financial situation. I’ve encountered wealthy regulars who still leave tips as low as 5-8%. Since many servers depend solely on tips for their livelihoods, if you can’t afford at least 15%, reconsider dining out. Families with children often require more attention and cleanup, so a tip closer to 20% is more appropriate.
4. Keep Your Table Clean
Just as servers aren’t babysitters, we aren’t your cleaning crew either. If your child makes a mess beyond the usual crumbs and empty glasses, lend a hand in tidying up. Would you appreciate it if I came to your workplace and let my child create a mess? It’s a matter of respect—your child’s mess is your responsibility, not ours.
In summary, when dining out with kids, remember to lead by example, keep your children under control, tip generously, and help maintain cleanliness. These practices not only create a better dining experience for everyone but also set a positive example for your children. For more insights on parenting and family life, check out this excellent resource on pregnancy and learn about home insemination options with this informative article.