As a parent, it’s heartwarming to see my son, Oliver, thriving at five years old. He is a preschooler gearing up for kindergarten, which means a whirlwind of birthday parties ahead. The invitations have started coming in, and while they excite him, they also present a unique challenge.
Due to his cerebral palsy, we chose to enroll him in a special needs inclusion preschool. This decision has been incredibly beneficial—like something out of a fairytale. Oliver has classmates who are typically developing, and they’re always eager to help him, whether it’s pushing his wheelchair or cheering him on during lunchtime. He participates in circle time, his legs supported by braces, and he’s surrounded by friends who genuinely care.
Despite this wonderful environment, the reality of social events can sometimes be daunting. Recently, I was caught off guard when one of the first invitations of the year popped up in Oliver’s cubby. It was for a birthday party at a trampoline park, complete with a glittery “Have a Bouncing Good Time!” message. When Jack, the birthday boy, approached me, he looked at me with wide eyes, hoping to see Oliver there. I hesitated, unsure of how to explain that we might not be able to attend.
To prepare, we decided to visit the trampoline park a week before the party. I wanted to see how Oliver would manage in his wheelchair amidst the chaos. The flashing lights and booming music were overwhelming, but he initially seemed unfazed. With careful guidance, we ventured onto the trampoline surface, but it quickly turned into a flurry of activity as other kids bounced around us. It was a mix of joy and anxiety, and before long, we found ourselves toppled over, lying on the mat.
Ultimately, I dropped off a gift for Jack and politely declined the invitation. Over the last couple of years, we’ve faced similar situations—saying no to play gyms, pools, and loud venues. But we’ve also had our share of “yeses,” enjoying outings to the zoo and movie theaters.
As we prepare for kindergarten with a new group of children, I want to reach out to the parents of Oliver’s future classmates: Please don’t stop inviting us. Although we can’t always attend, your invitations mean the world to us. Oliver, like any child, craves inclusion and the chance to be part of the celebration.
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In summary, the importance of inclusion in social settings cannot be overstated. It enriches the lives of all children, including those with special needs. By continuing to extend invitations, you foster a more accepting and diverse community.