If you have a friend or loved one navigating the challenges of in vitro fertilization (IVF), it’s natural to want to be supportive. However, many people going through this process have shared that certain comments, even when well-intentioned, can be hurtful. IVF can be an emotionally and physically draining journey, and being mindful of your words can make a significant difference. Here are seven phrases to avoid, along with some suggestions for what to say instead.
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“Just relax.”
Telling someone to simply relax might seem like helpful advice, but it can come across as dismissive. Fertility issues are complex and can’t be solved by just calming down. Instead, offer a listening ear or ask how they’re really feeling.
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“You’re having fertility problems because…”
Avoid making assumptions about the reasons for their fertility issues. Everyone’s situation is unique, and comments like these can feel judgmental. It’s better to offer your support without trying to diagnose their struggles.
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“Why don’t you adopt?”
While adoption is a wonderful option for many, suggesting it as an alternative can minimize their desire to conceive biologically. Instead, ask them what they’re comfortable sharing about their journey and respect their choices.
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“You’re still young!”
Just because someone is young doesn’t mean their path to parenthood will be easy. Infertility can affect individuals of any age. A more supportive approach may be to acknowledge their struggles and reassure them that it’s okay to feel frustrated.
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“Are you pregnant yet?”
This question can add pressure and anxiety to an already stressful situation. Instead, focus on expressing your support for whatever stage they’re at in their journey.
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“Congratulations!”
This phrase might be appropriate in some contexts but can be confusing if the couple is still trying to conceive. It’s better to celebrate their efforts and provide encouragement rather than jumping the gun.
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“Are you sure this is what you want?”
Questioning their desires can feel invalidating. Instead, affirm their choices and offer to help in whatever way they need.
Many women, like Sarah from our community, have shared that while others mean well, the comments can sometimes feel out of touch with their experiences. During this challenging time, it’s essential to seek resources that provide support and information. For those considering alternative paths to parenthood, check out Make A Mom for at-home insemination options, or join our free sperm donor matching group to connect with others.
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In summary, being mindful about the words we use can significantly impact those undergoing IVF. Offer your support through listening, understanding, and providing valuable resources, rather than diving into unsolicited advice or assumptions.