Another day, another instance of mom-shaming flooding the internet. It’s disheartening to see how far people will go to criticize mothers for their choices. A random mom at the park, perhaps checking her phone, becomes the target of judgmental snapshots shared on social media as if it were the most atrocious parenting fail imaginable. If they’re feeling particularly malicious, they might sprinkle in hashtags like #parentingfail or #motheroftheyear, with #shameful being my absolute least favorite.
Can we all agree to let mothers navigate their parenting journey without constant scrutiny? Is it too much to ask for people to put away their phones instead of intruding on someone else’s personal space? I often find myself thankful that I raised my kids before the era of smartphones, because the unflattering moments they could have documented would have gone viral in seconds.
Recently, I spoke with a new mom who expressed a troubling fear: “Sometimes, I hesitate to leave the house because I dread the thought of someone capturing my struggles and making me a laughingstock online. The thought of being judged and shamed is paralyzing. I feel like the real danger isn’t the world for my kids, but the judgment I face as a parent.”
That statement struck a chord with me. It’s heartbreaking to think that we’ve reached a point where parents feel unsafe in public. The online shaming culture, as discussed in the book Shame Nation, has created a hostile environment where parents are vilified for merely trying to do their best. There’s an entire section dedicated to the bullying tactics used against parents, which is alarming.
When my older kids ride their bikes in the neighborhood, I can’t help but worry that someone might question my parenting. Will a well-meaning neighbor snap a photo of them playing at the park and post it online? If my child gets hurt while we’re out, will I suddenly find myself on the defensive, battling accusations instead of receiving support?
Parenting should not be shrouded in fear of judgment. Keeping children cooped up at home due to perceived dangers only stunts their growth and confidence. The irony is that while we’re trying to protect our kids, we’re also depriving them of experiences. The pressure to be the “perfect” parent is immense, leading to a culture of constant surveillance.
Ultimately, these are your children. Raise them in a way that feels right to you. Don’t let fear dictate your parenting style or allow the judgment of others to cloud your decisions. It’s exhausting and counterproductive.
Sure, it takes a village to raise kids, but when parts of that village come armed with pitchforks, it’s time to seek a new community. Don’t let the fear of judgment hold you back from allowing your children to experience the world. They deserve to explore freely without the burden of your anxiety over what others might think.
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