Parenting is a relentless whirlwind. There’s always something that needs attention, and it can feel like a never-ending cycle of chaos. However, one mom wisely reminds us that sometimes, it’s okay to let things slide for the sake of our own well-being. Not out of indifference, but because we care so deeply that it can become overwhelming.
Last week, Laura Jenkins, a contributor for Modern Family Blog, shared a poignant message about self-care on social media. “Today, I simply shut the door,” she wrote beside a familiar photo of a room overflowing with toys. “For years, I’ve spent countless hours each week tidying up after my children. If only I could tally the time wasted picking up toys— it’s a staggering amount.”
Like many of us, Jenkins appreciates a tidy home. Yet, any parent knows that keeping one clean with kids around is nearly impossible. “I adore my little ones. They’re incredible humans. But they sure can create a mess,” she noted. Kids seem oblivious to clutter— it’s as if they don’t see it at all.
Jenkins, like numerous mothers, tried to manage it all— constantly organizing and re-organizing, which can feel like an endless task. “How do you expect me to navigate this space?” she often asked her kids. One particularly exhausting evening, her husband simply suggested, “Why not just close the door?”
Staring at him, she may have given a glare, expecting him to join her in tackling the Lego mountain. Instead, he offered her those seven liberating words. It was precisely what she needed.
In that moment, Jenkins stood up and shut the door. Because sometimes, that’s exactly what’s required. The demands of motherhood can be overwhelming, and if we’re not cautious, we can lose our sense of self.
“Nowadays, everyone emphasizes the importance of self-care for parents,” Jenkins continued. “And it truly is essential. Yet, finding time for self-care can be a challenge. It requires energy, time, and sometimes, asking for help.”
For Jenkins, self-care might mean “stashing away chocolate bars just for yourself,” or “turning on a show for the kids so you can sip your coffee while it’s still hot,” or even “putting the kids to bed early and enjoying some couch time with your partner.” And yes, sometimes it’s simply about shutting the door.
After her enlightening realization about the necessity of self-care, Jenkins implemented new household rules. “Now? The kids are responsible for cleaning their playroom once a week. Not me. It’s their job. The rest of the time? Well, it may look like a disaster, and that’s perfectly fine. Because that closed door is something I can comfortably live with.”
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In summary, it’s crucial for moms to prioritize their own well-being amidst the chaos of parenting. Sometimes, all you need to do is simply close the door.