Breastfeeding, especially extended breastfeeding, often sparks debate among parents and caregivers. As I reflect on this topic during World Breastfeeding Week, I want to share my thoughts candidly. In my earlier post, “The Milk Provider,” I discussed my initial challenges with milk production after my daughter was born. Many mothers face obstacles when it comes to breastfeeding, whether it’s difficulties with milk supply or achieving the right latch. While breastfeeding is intended to be a natural process, it doesn’t always come easily to everyone.
It’s important to note that many women opt not to breastfeed, and I respect those choices completely. It’s your body and your journey, mama. Some mothers may choose to breastfeed until they return to work, often finding it tough to pump in a less-than-ideal setting, like a restroom or a cramped office. It can be challenging to find the right environment to pump at work, and many employers vary in their support. Ultimately, when you’re at work, your focus naturally shifts to your job, and you might just want to get home to cuddle your little one.
I consider myself fortunate to work from home as an educator. Not only have I been able to pursue my passion for teaching, but I’ve also been present for my daughter every day since her birth. Once I mastered breastfeeding, the milk continued to flow, and I initially aimed for a year of nursing. However, that milestone passed, and my daughter continued to nurse like a pro.
Understanding Extended Breastfeeding
Extended breastfeeding refers to nursing beyond the first year of life, which is often when the criticisms begin. If you decide not to breastfeed your infant, you might encounter judgment from various sources—pediatricians, relatives, and more. Remember, no one knows your body and lifestyle better than you do, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
If you choose to continue nursing your toddler past the one-year mark, you may face scrutiny from family, friends, and even strangers. But if you can brush off the opinions of others, continuing to breastfeed your child is an excellent decision for several reasons:
Extended Breastfeeding is Recommended
Surprisingly, extended breastfeeding is often recommended by health organizations. The World Health Organization (WHO) advocates for exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months and suggests continuing breastfeeding for two years or longer. Did you know that breastfeeding beyond the first year is actually the recommendation rather than the exception? Next time someone raises an eyebrow and asks, “Are you still breastfeeding?,” confidently respond, “Yes, it’s recommended by the WHO,” maybe even adding a cheeky “Take that!”
Breast Milk Offers Ongoing Benefits
The nutritional advantages of breast milk don’t simply vanish after the first year. It continues to provide essential energy, nutrients, fats, and proteins that active toddlers need. Many mothers worry their busy toddlers aren’t eating enough of the right foods, but breast milk can help bridge those nutritional gaps better than any vitamin or protein shake. Plus, it can lead to fewer visits to the pediatrician since breast milk boosts immunity. If your toddler does get sick, nursing can provide comfort during tough times.
Breastfeeding contributes positively to your toddler’s overall health—supporting their hair, bones, teeth, and eyesight, and keeping them well-hydrated. My daughter managed to avoid a trip to the emergency room for dehydration after a nasty stomach flu because she was still nursing. Additionally, breastfed toddlers often have better eating habits since the flavors in breast milk can stimulate their taste buds. They’re also more likely to maintain a healthy weight and face a lower risk of obesity.
For those concerned about germs, breast milk is beneficial in strengthening your toddler’s immune system, with its immune-boosting properties improving during the second and third years of nursing.
It’s Beneficial for You, Too
Breastfeeding is a calorie-burning activity, helping you shed that stubborn baby weight without even stepping outside. You can relax on the couch, catching up on your favorite show while nursing! Moreover, extended breastfeeding has been linked with a lower risk of breast and ovarian cancer, according to the Mayo Clinic.
Fostering Independence in Your Child
Believe it or not, extended breastfeeding can help your child become more independent. When their emotional, psychological, and physical needs are met, toddlers gain the confidence to explore the world. Picture this: your little one feels secure and cherished with a full belly. What can’t they achieve?
Taking a Break Together
As a mom of a toddler, I often feel like I’m constantly on the go. My daughter seems to have an endless supply of energy, and I need caffeine just to keep up! However, nursing gives us both a moment to pause. During those few minutes of nursing, we share smiles and snuggles, allowing us to recharge before diving back into our busy lives.
Tips for Successful Extended Breastfeeding
If you’re convinced but still have some reservations, here are some tips to help you navigate extended breastfeeding:
- Feed On Demand with Boundaries: I typically follow my daughter’s cues. While I do ensure she has three meals and healthy snacks throughout the day, I let her decide when to nurse most of the time. When she asks, I encourage her to do so politely.
- Use Nursing for Behavior Management: My daughter often requests to nurse when she’s upset. While some may argue it’s merely for comfort, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, I don’t immediately resort to nursing for tantrums; we first explore other calming techniques.
- Ignore the Critics: It’s inevitable that some will view extended breastfeeding as odd or unconventional. Friends and family may express their support to your face but may gossip behind your back. Remember, their opinions don’t define your choices. Do what feels right for you and your child.
If you find yourself nursing in public, don’t let glares or stares deter you. I’ve nursed my daughter in various settings, even at crowded outdoor events, and I simply smile and carry on. Just a reminder: breastfeeding is not sexual; it’s a natural way to nourish a child.
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In summary, extended breastfeeding is not only natural but also beneficial for both you and your toddler. It supports their development, boosts their immunity, and allows for bonding moments that you both cherish. As a mother, your journey is unique—embrace it without concern for others’ opinions.