There was a time when the thought of dining solo in a restaurant filled me with dread. I thrived on social interactions, often calling up a friend for a spontaneous trip to the store. I was adventurous, outgoing, and loved meeting new people. However, everything changed when I became a mom. That once adventurous extrovert has transformed into a reserved introvert. Now, I find more joy in sipping a quiet cup of coffee than in a bustling night out. If I can help it, I’d rather stay home, enjoying the comfort of my favorite loungewear—where I can be completely at ease.
These days, the world outside feels overwhelming, and while I don’t dislike people, I’ve become more discerning about who I spend time with and how long I engage. Like the famous line from Pretty Woman, “I say who, I say when, I say how much”—but this applies to my social interactions, not to anything else. Perhaps my introversion is just a byproduct of the endless exhaustion that comes with motherhood. My children are a joy, but they can also be incredibly draining. So when I finally find a moment to breathe, I crave solitude.
Recently, I was gifted with an unexpected block of alone time—something every mother dreams about. Usually, I’d rush to the nearest store, but that day, I had a craving for tacos. Not just any tacos, but ones accompanied by a refreshing margarita, a basket of chips, and a hearty bowl of salsa. So, I made my way to my favorite restaurant and did something a bit out of character: I asked for a table for one.
The host’s initial expression was one of confusion, followed by a hint of sympathy. For a fleeting moment, I felt compelled to justify my solo dining choice, but then I thought, “Why should I?” I’m an adult who simply desires some tacos.
Once seated, I dove into my phone and caught up on social media while enjoying my chips and salsa. I noticed a few glances from other patrons, some filled with pity and one kind woman even offered me a seat at her table, which I graciously declined. I genuinely appreciated her kindness, but I was perfectly content in my little bubble.
Not only did I relish an entire basket of chips by myself, but I also didn’t have to worry about anyone needing to use the restroom mid-meal. I could savor each bite without being distracted by a tiny human having a meltdown over their food. While I cherish date nights with my partner, it was liberating to simply let my mind wander without the pressure of maintaining a conversation.
As I was wrapping up my meal, the waiter checked in to see if I needed anything else. Unfortunately, they didn’t offer pedicures, but I left satisfied and refreshed. I highly encourage every mother to take a similar break for themselves.
The next time you find yourself with a few moments of freedom, treat yourself to a table at your favorite restaurant. Bring along a book or simply enjoy people-watching. It’s essential to carve out time for yourself—you won’t regret it!
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In summary, embracing solitude, even just for a meal, can be a refreshing change for any busy mom.