Lifestyle
By Jamie Rivers
Updated: June 30, 2021
Originally Published: Dec. 24, 2020
Let’s face it: most parents aren’t navigating this quarantine by whipping up gourmet meals or diving into exciting new hobbies. The reality is that many of us are finding ourselves raising our voices more often and occasionally throwing exasperated looks at our partners. Simply put, parents are feeling overwhelmed, craving personal space, and desperately wishing our partners would ease up on the annoyance factor.
The majority of us have been abruptly pulled from our routines and confined to our homes for what feels like an eternity. Personally, I didn’t plan on spending every single day alongside my partner, and this excessive “togetherness” has led to a fair amount of frustration with their very existence.
My family has been in some form of quarantine for nearly 300 days now—300 DAYS! This situation was supposed to last just two weeks. To say I’m feeling a bit stir-crazy would be a massive understatement. While a vaccine is finally available and there’s a glimmer of hope ahead, we still have many more days of this confinement to endure.
I genuinely enjoy my partner’s company. We’ve always had a good time together, even in the simple moments. However, the sheer amount of time we’ve spent together this year eclipses the last two decades of our relationship. I can’t pretend that every minute of our time in this house has been blissful. I’ve found myself daydreaming about a life without his constant presence more times than I’d like to admit.
There was a period last summer when we weren’t really communicating—well, I wasn’t talking to him much. He was stressed about being out of work and nursing some injuries, while I was juggling four kids and trying to run our household. I was completely out of patience and on the verge of snapping. I genuinely thought one of us might need to move out for our marriage to survive this pandemic. Thankfully, he returned to work in September, and that helped restore some normalcy to our relationship.
Let’s be honest, no matter how strong your relationship was before the pandemic, you’ve probably hit a breaking point of annoyance with your partner at some stage. If you’ve found yourself feeling mild to extreme irritation with your spouse, welcome to the club. There’s nothing quite like being together 24/7 to test the limits of a marriage. This year has pushed every couple’s resilience to the brink, even those who seemed to have it all figured out.
I recently posted in a private Facebook group for parents and was inundated with complaints about husbands. Some issues were as trivial as being unable to tolerate the sound of their partner breathing, while others delved into deeper concerns like depression or even potential separation. However, most grievances revolved around everyday annoyances that would typically be brushed aside. One mom mentioned that her spouse’s chewing made her not want to eat in the same room as him. Another complained about the never-ending “gifts” of dirty socks and empty water bottles scattered around the house, admitting that she may have thrown one at him out of frustration.
Several moms expressed that their partners seemed oblivious to the chaos unfolding with the kids, either disappearing or scrolling through their phones as if completely unaware. One mom lamented the fact that while she was wide awake, mentally ticking off her to-do list, her husband was peacefully snoring beside her.
It’s the little annoyances that usually go unnoticed that can push us over the edge. They make us imagine what it might be like to silence that snoring with a pillow (not that I’m advocating for any sort of pillow-related violence). If you’ve had similar thoughts, know you’re not alone.
Many of us haven’t had the luxury of the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” It’s no surprise that tensions are high after months of being cooped up together. These are trying times.
I understand that many people are facing more severe issues, and if you’re struggling to put food on the table, this may seem trivial. However, it doesn’t diminish the validity of those who need to voice minor grievances to avoid exploding under the pressure. If you find yourself rage-cleaning while your partner hides in the bathroom for what feels like the third time today, remember that you’re not alone. We’re all trying to navigate this dramatic shift in our lives, compounded by job losses, financial strain, mental health struggles, and so much more. If your marriage is holding up under these circumstances, consider yourself one of the lucky few.
For more insights, check out this blog post on managing relationship stress during quarantine.
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