I was recently diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder, a revelation that didn’t shock me given that I’ve dealt with these issues for most of my life. However, since becoming a parent, I’ve felt a stronger urgency to face my mental health challenges head-on rather than avoid them.
It’s no surprise that I’ve noticed some signs of anxiety in one of my children. When I first recognized these symptoms a couple of years ago, my heart sank. The last thing any parent wishes for their child is to struggle with the same issues that have plagued them for years.
In a recent conversation with my pediatrician, I shared my concerns about my child’s anxiety along with my own experiences. To my astonishment, he responded with optimism, highlighting the strengths my child would cultivate and the achievements they would unlock. His positive perspective provided a wave of relief.
As parents, we instinctively want to shield our children from the pain we’ve experienced. Yet, when I reflected on my journey, I realized that I’ve grown stronger through my struggles. I’ve learned to confront my anxiety, transforming it from a crippling force into a catalyst for resilience. Suddenly, what I once viewed as a weakness in my child appeared as a potential source of untapped strength.
While I didn’t receive guidance as a child facing mental health challenges, I am here to support my son. What could be more valuable for a child grappling with anxiety than having a parent who understands?
Here’s what I would tell my child—and any other young person dealing with anxiety:
It’s perfectly okay. Yes, it can be tough. Some days will feel overwhelming, and anxiety may disrupt your plans. But with every challenge you face, you’re also building your strength.
Don’t let anyone convince you that you’re weak. You’re not! While certain things may come easily to others, that doesn’t diminish your capabilities. You are a warrior, and you can conquer this battle.
It’s normal to feel fear. It’s completely valid to be scared and anxious. Acknowledge those feelings, but also remember that it’s okay to fight against them. You can experience fear and still rise above it. Some days will be harder than others, and that’s alright. There will be many days when you succeed. Hold onto those memories; they are fortifying you.
Understand that it’s okay not to excel at everything others can do. You possess your own unique talents. Maybe you find crowds intimidating, or the thought of speaking in front of five people terrifies you. That’s okay. Discover your own superpowers and focus on those rather than comparing yourself to others.
Embrace the fact that your brain operates differently, and learn to love it. This can be challenging, but the more you accept your mind as it is, the better equipped you’ll be to recognize and control errant thoughts. Cherish your unique perspective, even when it feels frustrating.
Reach out to someone you trust. I assure you, there are people in your life who will love and accept you just as you are. Be open about your struggles; it’s the first step towards finding support. It could be a parent, a teacher, or a friend—seek out those who truly care and confide in them so they can help you.
While it may seem daunting, remind yourself that taking things one day at a time makes life manageable. Concentrate on today—not on tomorrow or what might happen down the line. Focus on doing your best in the present moment.
Lastly, be gentle with yourself. I’ll allow you to feel frustrated and upset, but promise me you’ll also work towards self-forgiveness afterward. When you stumble, forgive yourself. Understand that you’re not alone in this journey, and together, we can overcome.
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