As a working mom juggling young children, my nights often resemble a chaotic assembly line of tiny bodies forming around me at unpredictable hours. One child wakes, triggering a cascade of wakefulness that sets the tone for the day. Soon enough, the alarm blares. Co-sleeping wasn’t my choice; it was more like a decision made by my kids. Mornings can either unfold peacefully or erupt into a frenzy of sibling squabbles before 6 a.m.
In the hustle of getting everyone fed, dressed, and out the door, my own morning “self-care” consists of brushing my teeth before diving into a whirlwind of chaos, which I like to call “cardio.” It’s a frantic race against time to gather all the essentials. After work, I navigate through rush hour traffic, only to face the dinner dilemma. (Do all kids have an aversion to dinner, or is it just mine?) The evening hours roll into the exhausting routine of reading, occasional baths, pajamas, more teeth brushing, tidying up, prepping for the next day, and the chores that keep our home afloat. By 9 p.m., the kids are finally asleep, and the house is marginally less chaotic.
Now comes the question: what’s next? Parenting magazines and blogs often romanticize this time as a sacred hour for “me” time—filled with a glass of wine, a bubble bath, or binge-watching that guilty pleasure TV show. Is this when everyone else is crafting Pinterest projects? Honestly, it just doesn’t cut it for me. It’s time we discuss this before we lose ourselves in the whirlwind of parenting and forget our own identities.
Perhaps it’s the fact that my kids are mostly sleeping through the night that has awakened my need for more. I feel restless and energized, like I’m ready to stretch beyond my current existence. Bubble baths feel like mere band-aids for a deeper wound, one that will continue to bleed if I don’t find the “me” time that truly nourishes my soul. I’m in a new phase of life, post-kids, and I need time to rediscover who I am. It’s not just about reading the next bestseller; I want to write my own story.
Expressing the feeling of being in the flow is challenging. I miss the sense of diving into a fulfilling project that leaves me feeling revitalized. I crave creative immersion—something that allows me to feel like myself again. So, I’m reclaiming my “me” time in a way that resonates deeply with me, and here’s how:
1. Stealing Sleep (A Risky Strategy)
Toni Morrison famously rose before her children to write. As a night owl, I often find myself staying up later than I should. But sacrificing sleep from an already limited reserve can be a slippery slope. Running a household smoothly is like balancing a tower of cards; removing sleep from the equation can lead to collapse in the form of illness or burnout. Still, some nights I embrace the danger with intention.
2. Time Off Work (When Possible)
My days are consumed with work and parenting, making personal time feel like a luxury. Have you ever taken a vacation day just for yourself? I’m committed to trying it. Yes, I already use more than my fair share of leave for sick kids, snow days, and unexpected school closures. Yet, I’m scheduling time away from work, treating it with the same importance as any medical appointment. My spirit is hungry, and I need to nourish it—right alongside my overdue dental cleaning.
3. Time from Parenting (If You Can Shake Off the Guilt)
The workday is long, and weekends are a blur of fun and chores. Taking time away from my kids is the hardest. I often feel guilty about not spending enough time with them. But I’m choosing to do it anyway, guilt-free as much as possible. Once a week, I carve out a few hours just for me. On Fridays, I stay late at work to finish my week, then I treat myself to candlelight restorative yoga. Alternatively, I might visit a friend and take a moment to relax. Sometimes, I’ll head to a café to write or take a solitary walk to gather my thoughts. Every parent deserves to reclaim their time at least once a week—though we all deserve much more, given how challenging parenting can be.
To all the parents navigating the chaotic world of babies and sleepless nights, remember—you will get through this. Don’t forget to check in with yourself amidst the diapers and midnight wake-up calls. You deserve this time, and the world needs your unique gifts. The knowledge and skills you fought hard to attain are worth revisiting. Don’t neglect that person who still resides within you. She needs her own time—much more than just a bubble bath. It’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being; after all, you have a spark that deserves to shine.
In summary, it’s essential for parents to carve out meaningful “me” time amidst the demands of family life. By prioritizing self-care in the form of creative pursuits, personal time away from work, and guilt-free moments away from the kids, we can rejuvenate ourselves and reconnect with our passions.
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