As summer approaches, many parents will welcome their college-aged children back home for an extended stay. While this can be an enjoyable time filled with family bonding, it’s also essential to establish clear boundaries to ensure a peaceful coexistence. After a year of independence, your child’s return can bring about unique challenges, especially if you’ve been relishing your personal space.
I remember the first time I encountered the concept of “boundaries.” While running errands, I stumbled upon a talk radio segment discussing this very topic. The host described it simply: “This is yours, and this is mine. Here’s the line you shouldn’t cross.” It seemed straightforward, yet I never considered how it applied to family dynamics.
My partner and I married young, and we never established firm boundaries. We shared everything: from morning coffee to our love of movies and the various viruses that came our way. Our lives blended seamlessly, and when our children arrived, we saw no need for boundaries. However, when our kids entered their late teens and early twenties, things shifted. They began asserting their independence, creating a rift that left us reeling.
As parents, we have noticed they’ve started to set boundaries for us, while simultaneously trampling over our rights. It can feel like a chaotic environment, reminiscent of a lively festival. To navigate this tricky terrain, I’ve decided to establish some ground rules for the summer to promote harmony in our household:
- If you use my washing machine, please move the previous load to the dryer and fold it afterward. I will reciprocate the favor, and by the end of the summer, I will have folded more laundry than anyone else in the house. (Just a little friendly competition!)
- If you come home and find the house quiet, it means I’m likely out with friends. Feel free to whip up your own dinner.
- If you raid the fridge or pantry and can’t find your preferred snacks, take a trip to the grocery store. Leave your receipt on the counter; I typically don’t stock those items.
- Lastly, if my bedroom door is closed, it might be a sign that I need some space. Feel free to send a text or email if you have something to discuss; I promise to respond thoughtfully.
To all the parents out there who, like me, are managing a temporary bed-and-breakfast situation this summer, remember: “If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s probably your college student.” For more insights on navigating family dynamics, check out this excellent resource on treating infertility and consider exploring family planning options like the BabyMaker at Home Insemination Kit. Also, for additional tips and support, visit Modern Family Blog for expert advice.
In summary, summer can be a delightful yet challenging time for families with college students returning home. By implementing clear guidelines and respecting each other’s space, you can foster a harmonious environment for everyone involved.