What I Want My Easygoing Child to Understand

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There you are, content and focused, happily engaged in your coloring at the kitchen table. The pride you take in your creation is evident. With deliberate care, you select each color from your vibrant marker collection, determined to craft something as beautiful and unique as you are.

I know you may not realize I’m observing, but I am.

Occasionally, you glance at your little brother, who is clinging to my legs, demanding, “Up… up, Mommy,” over and over. I try to tune him out just long enough to appreciate your artwork, but his pleas grow louder. “UP! UP MOMMY!” he shouts, his persistence resembling sticky tape, refusing to let go. Despite my encouragement for him to play independently, it rarely happens.

I lift him into my arms, hoping to move closer to you and admire your masterpiece. I can see you’re absorbed in your project, though I catch glimpses of your attention drifting to a cartoon on TV. When something funny occurs, your face lights up, and laughter erupts, revealing the joy you’re experiencing. Your independence is always a delight to behold.

Before I can reach you, your brother starts whining for a snack. I gently refuse, explaining that dinner is on the way, but he doesn’t yet understand “no.” His tantrum begins, escalating in intensity. Suddenly, I find myself juggling a screaming toddler while trying to prepare dinner. You’re deep into your coloring, and I can see the vibrant mosaic of colors forming in your picture, even as your brother continues to shout demands for snacks, hugs, and help with the bathroom. My patience is wearing thin, and your brother is monopolizing my time and energy. You might then ask for something small, and my response could be curt, though it’s not your fault.

I know you may think I’m not attentively listening, but I am.

Sensing my frustration, you pause your activity and attempt to assist me by talking to your brother. You hold his hand and try to be the caregiver, even though he’s not inclined to listen. It amazes me that, rather than vying for my attention like any sibling might, you often put your needs aside to help me.

I know you may not think I appreciate your efforts, but I truly do.

As dinnertime arrives, it’s always a challenge, especially with your brother. You might need some encouragement to eat, but you generally make the effort. Your brother, however, often requires a great deal more coaxing. When he finally takes a bite, we cheer him on, and instead of seeking praise for yourself, you join in applauding him. You are the most wonderful big sister, and even after finishing your meal while he barely makes progress, you wait patiently for him to finish, no matter how many times he leaves the table.

I know you may think I don’t notice these little things, but I definitely do.

By the end of dinner, I feel frazzled and drained. As I start to clean up, you return to your coloring. Your brother has left a plate of half-eaten food while he negotiates for more snacks. Unlike him, you wait quietly for your turn, continuing your creative work as he calls, “MOMMY, UP.”

As bedtime approaches, I’m busy wrestling your brother into pajamas. You comply without fuss when I ask you to put yours on. After you’ve just finished your coloring, you show me your stunning picture, beaming with pride. “Do you like it?” you ask. I respond with a heartfelt, “I love it.” You cut it from your coloring book and hand it to me. This gesture embodies who you are: kind, joyful, loving, generous, and independent.

I want you to know, my easygoing child, that even when your brother demands more of my time and attention, I see everything you do. I cherish your delight in simple pleasures. I may not always be right next to you, or have an extra hand to meet your needs when your brother wants to be held. I might not speak to you as often as I do to him, but please understand that you are seen, heard, valued, and loved just as much as he is.

As you both grow, the dynamics may shift, but my hope is to always communicate how much you are cherished and appreciated.

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In summary, my easygoing child, your quiet strength and independence shine brightly through every moment, even when the chaos of your brother overwhelms us both. Remember, you are always valued and loved.

Keyphrase: Low-maintenance child

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