As you step into the world of dating, it’s vital to understand an essential distinction between “nice guys” and “good men.” It feels like just yesterday you were a little girl, and now here you are, exploring relationships with young men. You’ll embark on a journey to discover what you truly desire in a partner, and it’s an adventure filled with learning and growth.
Let me share a story from my own past. In college, I had a friend named Sarah who became infatuated with a guy we’ll call Ryan. Ryan had that charming and gentle demeanor that could easily win anyone over. He brought Sarah small, thoughtful gifts, filled their dates with laughter, and showered her with compliments, telling her she was everything he ever wanted.
However, beneath that facade, Ryan had a troubling pattern. He would lead Sarah on, only to let her down. After a fight, he’d drown his sorrows in alcohol, often winding up with someone else, then charm his way back into her life with empty apologies. To outsiders, Ryan was the quintessential “nice guy,” but he was far from being a good man.
It’s easy to be drawn to nice guys. They’re often fun, engaging, and know just the right things to say. But not all of them possess the qualities of a truly good man. As you navigate your own relationships, take the time to discern between the two. This is where your intuition and a keen understanding of character will serve you well.
Here are some differences to consider:
- A nice guy might make you laugh, but a good man will ensure you don’t end up in tears.
- While a nice guy will tell you you’re beautiful, a good man will celebrate and help you express your inner beauty.
- A nice guy may hold the door open for you, but a good man will be there to support you through life’s challenges, holding your hand when it matters most.
- A nice guy might offer you his jacket, but a good man will offer his time, energy, and commitment.
- A nice guy will buy you flowers, while a good man will invest in your dreams and aspirations.
- A nice guy could walk you to your car, but a good man will walk alongside you, navigating the highs and lows of life together.
If my friend Sarah had married Ryan — and he did propose — it would have been a colossal mistake. When she sought my advice, I was clear: nice guys don’t always equal good men. You should never settle for a nice guy unless you can confidently say he embodies the qualities of a good man.
As you explore relationships, keep this distinction in mind. Does this guy consistently show you he is responsible, truthful, and kind? Or is he merely charming without any substantial proof of integrity?
Falling for nice guys is all too easy, and I’ll admit I’ve been there myself. But when you’re ready to seek a partner, aim for a good man who will uplift you and cherish you for life. Trust me, there are many out there worth finding.
Love,
Mom
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Summary:
This letter emphasizes the important distinction between “nice guys” and “good men.” It encourages young women to look beyond charming facades to find partners who demonstrate consistent integrity, kindness, and true support. By understanding these differences, they can navigate the dating world more wisely and make informed choices in relationships.
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