When it comes to dealing with picky eaters, many parents face a dilemma. Should you let your child stick to their limited favorites, or should you insist they try what’s been prepared and risk a mealtime showdown? This was the topic of a recent conversation I had with my friend Lisa from Ohio, who shared her struggles with her 5-year-old daughter.
Just last week, my own mom gave me a stern lecture after I told my daughter that I wouldn’t prepare an alternative meal to what I had made. My mom insisted she couldn’t fathom sleeping soundly knowing I had the means to make something else but chose not to. I reminded her that we all have our styles of parenting, and thankfully, my kids are healthy, so I’m not losing sleep over it.
We’ve all heard the common complaints from our little ones about trying new foods:
- “I just know I won’t like that.”
- “It looks yucky.”
- “It smells funny.”
- “I’ll try it when I’m older.”
- “That smells like poop!”
- “It’s too spicy!”
- “That looks like something I’m allergic to!”
Let’s be honest: mealtimes can become a battlefield with picky eaters, and we all want our children to be robust and healthy. Wouldn’t it be marvelous if they would enthusiastically devour everything we placed before them? For many kids, however, their taste buds seem more in line with fast food than gourmet cuisine, making it feel nearly impossible to convince them to try anything new.
In the past, I found myself bargaining and pleading for just “one small bite,” which often led to tears and frustration—mostly mine. But I’ve decided to change my approach to handling my own picky eaters. Here’s what I do now:
When I prepare a meal, I simply serve it, and my kids can choose to eat it or not. No more haggling or endless negotiations. As parents, we often have to pick our battles, and food isn’t one I’m willing to fight over. Surprisingly, I’ve found that the less I push, the less they resist.
Here’s how it typically unfolds: After cooking, I ask if they’d like to try what I made. Most times, they’ll take a little taste and sometimes even eat the whole meal. If they opt out, they can prepare something else—within reason. I make sure it’s something healthy that I can approve, like yogurt and fruit, rather than a junk food binge.
This method works best for older kids who can handle cooking on the stove, but even my youngest, who is just 4, can grab something simple from the fridge if she turns her nose up at my delicious pot roast.
Of course, there are exceptions. Some kids, like my 8-year-old, have specific aversions due to sensory sensitivities. It’s essential to approach these situations with care. I always make sure he has something he enjoys, but as he matures, I expect him to take on the responsibility of making his own meals.
For my other six kids? They’re on their own with food choices. If they don’t want my delectable pot roast, that’s fine—more for me! I won’t be catering to individual preferences or spending half an hour coercing them to eat. It’s far less stressful for everyone involved, and they can learn to make their own (healthy) choices.
Most kids likely won’t be eating a wide range of foods as suggested by dietary guidelines. But hey, if they want to dip veggies in sweet sauces or have yogurt and carrots for dinner every night, that’s their choice. It’s about giving them autonomy while easing the frustration for all of us.
If you have a child who eagerly tries new foods, I’d love to hear your secrets—though I’m quite content with my current method. I can almost hear my mom shaking her head as she reads this. Different strokes for different folks, Mom. Love you!
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Summary:
Tara Wood shares her approach to managing mealtime with picky eaters, emphasizing the importance of allowing children to make their food choices while minimizing conflict. By serving meals without compromise and encouraging independence, she has found a balance that works for her family. She acknowledges that each child’s needs may vary, especially for those with sensory sensitivities, but overall, she advocates for a stress-free dining experience.
Keyphrase: parenting picky eaters
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