I can still vividly recall my graduation day, as if it happened just moments ago. I remember us snapping photos in our caps and gowns, the exhilarating toss of our graduation caps into the air, and Green Day’s “Time of Your Life” playing as a slideshow of four years’ worth of memories unfolded. The tears, the hugs, and our solemn vows to “stay in touch” and that our bond would never change echo in my memory.
“Friends are forever!” we declared. “Nothing will ever change!” With our pink friendship bracelets adorning our wrists, we symbolized our commitment to one another.
Fast forward fifteen years, and unsurprisingly, much has changed. My circle of friends from high school has shifted. That faded pink bracelet now rests in a trunk alongside countless photos, notes, and letters from the early 2000s. Social media has kept us linked, but for the most part, we’ve all ventured into our own separate lives.
I hold nothing but love for those fantastic friends. We simply drifted apart. It’s not sad or tragic; it’s just how life unfolds.
Having lived long enough to earn a few gray hairs, I’ve discovered something about relationships: you can count on one hand the friends who endure through life’s major transitions. When you graduate from college, some friends will fade away. After marriage, you might lose a few more. And when children come into the picture, well, we all know what happens.
Drifting apart is a natural part of life. We grow and evolve, and relationships naturally refine to the few that truly matter.
Among the few who remain, you find your circle—the friends who stick around, even when it’s tough to maintain those bonds. These friendships are like gold, invaluable and worth every ounce of effort needed to nurture them.
However, there exists a rare kind of friend that transcends all this. It’s a friendship that flourishes not through struggle, but because it’s so effortless. This friend is your person.
Your connection is easy, like slipping into your favorite jeans, or enjoying breakfast for dinner. It just clicks. You can chat for hours and never tire of each other, or go months without speaking and still feel as though nothing has changed. Life’s ups and downs don’t put pressure on this friendship.
Getting married? Perfect! You can skip sending her a wedding invite because she already knows the venue and wouldn’t miss it for the world. She was there while you chose flowers, shed tears over the dress, and tore up the dance floor. In fact, she probably appears in most of your wedding photos, a silent partner you didn’t even realize you had.
Having a baby? Great! She may not have kids yet, but you can bet she’s researching “Braxton Hicks” just to understand your third-trimester freak-outs. She’ll happily deliver pickles and ice cream and has already claimed her “Auntie” name.
Why? Because she genuinely cares about your happiness as much as her own. When a crisis strikes, she’s always the first person you call. She has a knack for swooping in to handle any disaster, holding your hand and easing your worries.
In the unfortunate event of a divorce, count on your person to wipe your tears, honor the memories of your past love, and perhaps even have a gallon of sugar in her trunk, just in case she needs to take revenge on that jerk’s gas tank.
Or if there’s a death in the family, your person will fly in at a moment’s notice. When you lock eyes, a thousand words are exchanged without a sound. You cry, and she holds you, because she is your person. She is exactly what you need in that moment.
There’s tremendous comfort in knowing that someone who truly understands you is right by your side. There’s no need to plan or tidy up your life before she visits; she’s there for all of it—no reservations, no judgment.
She’ll curl up on the couch in her pajamas, binge-watching whatever your current obsession is, even if she’s two seasons behind. She’ll happily wander around Target for hours with you, lattes in hand, trying on those ridiculous bargain-bin outfits.
Your person doesn’t require entertainment; she simply wants to be with you. Who needs plans when you can stay up late swapping stories, binging on junk food, and laughing until you can’t breathe? There’s nothing quite like it.
Whether you met her in kindergarten or at your high school graduation, or perhaps you haven’t crossed paths yet, you’ll know when you do. And on those days when life feels overwhelming and your spouse is driving you up the wall, you’ll reach for the phone and call your person.
You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, and you’ll dream together about future adventures, like buying neighboring homes in a beach town and planning retirement travels. Picture the two of you, gray-haired and glorious, causing mischief in a nursing home, playing bunco just like you do now. There’s no doubt that you’ll always be there for one another, through thick and thin, until the end of time.
Because that unique kind of friend—the one you keep forever—is your person.
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In summary, the rarity of finding a friend who effortlessly remains by your side through life’s twists and turns is a true gift. Cherish that person, as they are your forever friend.
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