Let’s get real: I’m a bigger woman. Sometimes I fluctuate in weight, but I’ve made peace with my body. A while back, I decided that regardless of my size, I would embrace my beauty and happiness. I immerse myself in body positivity by following inspiring plus-size fashion influencers and reading stories from women like me.
The discourse around fat bodies is vast. There’s an abundance of faux concern for our health, along with the name-calling and negativity. Yet, amid the chaos, there’s a treasure trove of love and empowerment. When women share their stories, it brings beauty into the world. I cherish those “me too” moments that social media facilitates, allowing us to connect.
But then, there’s a familiar scenario. A man shares a body-positive message about a woman who’s curvy or, let’s say, fat. Instead of simply celebrating that beautiful sentiment, he’s often hailed as a hero for loving someone who doesn’t fit the conventional mold of thinness. It’s as if he’s done something monumental, akin to saving a puppy from a burning building. He receives this odd, undeserved “good guy” status, as if showing affection for a plus-size woman is a grand sacrifice.
Many women have internalized the idea that being anything but thin is a mark against us, and I understand why; society bombards us with messages suggesting we are less than. It can be exhausting to navigate.
However, the notion that my husband deserves adoration for loving me? No, thank you.
I bring so much to our relationship. I’m intelligent, I have a sense of humor, and I push him to be better. Together, we’re raising our children, and I support his dreams while managing our home. I consider myself his best friend.
He’s not doing me a favor by loving me. He’s fortunate to have me, just as I am to have him. If he had chosen to overlook me because of my size, he would have missed out on the last 14 years filled with love from someone truly remarkable.
My size does not reduce my worth; I’m not a consolation prize. I’m a shining gold trophy, not a silver medal.
So let’s stop giving him accolades for simply being with me. His reward for loving me as he does is the deep love he receives in return. No awards necessary—he’s already won.
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In summary, loving someone is not a favor, and we need to recognize the mutual respect and admiration in relationships, regardless of size.
Keyphrase: My Partner Doesn’t Need Praise for Loving Me
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