In the world of motherhood, it’s hard to find a blog or parenting article that doesn’t emphasize the importance of nurturing friendships with adult women. Many of these pieces suggest going out with friends for a night of wine or coffee, as if that’s the key to self-care. While I get the appeal of a break from the daily grind of playing referee and cleaning crayon stains, what they often fail to mention is that these outings can be utterly draining.
Getting dressed up for a night out can be exhilarating until fatigue hits around 10:30 PM. Sure, it’s fun to share a bottle of wine after the kids are in bed and laugh about the chaos of parenting, but let’s be real: sometimes, it feels more like a chore than a relief. The local café might seem like a refuge for venting, but it’s hard to find the energy to juggle adult conversations when you’re already knee-deep in kid chaos.
As a mom, I spend a significant portion of my day deciphering the emotional turmoil of my children. Just the other night, my 4-year-old threw a fit because I wouldn’t let him eat chips he had just vomited on. Yes, you read that right—I broke his heart by denying him a snack of vomit-covered chips. Some days, I dread asking my kids what’s bothering them, fearing their responses will be just as nonsensical. I even snapped at my husband once for making vague noises while reading, demanding he communicate like an adult. Turns out, my “mom voice” has a way of silencing the room.
I’m in the business of raising future adults. With three kids under five, my days are filled with the hope that they’ll grow into well-adjusted, communicative individuals. I simply don’t have the time or energy to interpret vague sighs or cryptic messages. If you want to talk to me as a friend, please do so directly.
Now, this isn’t to say I have it all figured out or that I never stumble. I certainly have my moments of immaturity and selfishness. But if we’re going to be friends, I need you to be upfront with me. I can’t be your emotional detective; I’m too busy.
One of the perks of aging is choosing where to invest our energy. I’ve had multiple conversations with some amazing women about how liberating it is to focus on friendships that truly matter, rather than trying to please everyone. When we reach this stage of honesty, we find that “letting loose” means feeling comfortable enough to come over with pizza and a movie without worrying about the state of my home. It means using my shirt as a spit-up rag without batting an eye and knowing when I might need a little help with chores.
This doesn’t mean I want superficial friendships now that I’m a mom. I crave connections that are free from drama and filled with mutual support. I want to be there for both the monumental and the mundane, ready to apologize when necessary and to forgive without holding grudges. Adult friendships should be just that—adult.
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In summary, while friendships are vital, the quality of those connections is far more important than the quantity. As moms, we need to surround ourselves with people who understand the demands of our lives and can communicate openly without unnecessary drama.
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