New mothers often find themselves judged by their child’s milestones—sleep patterns, eating habits, walking timelines, and general behavior. I’ve been there, believing that our performance in these areas determined my success as a mother. If my kids checked off these boxes at the ‘right’ times (which, by the way, don’t exist), I would have considered myself a stellar parent.
But when you take a moment to reflect, you must ask: who is doing the grading, and do their opinions really matter? Likely not.
I didn’t irrevocably damage my children with my anxious tendencies or rigid routines. Sure, my efforts to ensure they were spotless before public outings might have had some minor consequences, like my daughter remembering my frantic hairbrush escapades, but ultimately, they turned out fine.
Now, with a teenager and two tweens in the house, I’ve learned that I could have greatly benefited from easing my grip on certain things. If given a chance to redo those years, I’d jump at it, especially in these areas:
1. Eating and Sleeping Patterns
I used to feel an overwhelming tension if we didn’t return home by a specific time for lunch and naps. While routines are helpful, it’s essential to remember that flexibility is key. A mother who is stressed out will likely raise stressed-out kids. Trust me, children who feel pressure in these areas often struggle with appetite and sleep.
2. Their Cleanliness
I once thought it was crucial to keep my kids clean at all times, even going so far as to prevent them from falling asleep in their high chairs. In hindsight, I realize that I could have let them be a bit messier and enjoyed a more relaxed atmosphere. Instead, my efforts to keep them pristine often backfired, resulting in sleepless, dressed-for-a-party children.
3. Household Tidiness
I often prepped my home for unexpected visitors or spontaneous playdates, leading to undue stress whenever children would inevitably make a mess. I wish I had focused less on maintaining a perfect home and more on creating joyful memories—after all, nobody truly cares about dust bunnies during a playdate.
4. Outfits
Having three kids in quick succession led me to obsess over matching outfits, yet they despised them from day one. It would have been far more productive to embrace their individuality rather than force a fashion statement that nobody wanted.
5. Dietary Choices
I invested a lot of energy into nursing them and preparing organic meals, only to watch them indulge in sugary cereals and leftover Halloween candy when they thought I wasn’t looking. While it’s essential to provide nutritious food, it’s equally important to relax and allow for some fun choices. After all, a simple bowl of Fruit Loops can be a delightful treat that gives you a moment of respite.
As a seasoned mom, I have my share of regrets, mostly stemming from my overly serious approach to parenting. If I had taken a step back and relaxed, I believe both I and my kids would have benefitted greatly. For the record, I still stand by those adorable shades I forced on my youngest.
So, to all the new moms out there, remember that it’s acceptable to deviate from your schedule, indulge in a bit of chaos, and even skip bath time on occasion. I know it’s hard to heed this advice when you’re in the thick of it, but trust me—there’s wisdom in letting go.
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In summary, parenting is a journey filled with lessons learned through trial and error. Embrace the imperfections, and remember that your well-being is just as important as your children’s.
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