“Did you get any compliments on your outfit today, sweetheart?” I asked one sunny afternoon as she climbed into the backseat of my car.
“Absolutely!” she replied, her bright eyes sparkling in the rearview mirror. “Everyone loved it!”
I couldn’t help but smile back. Lily was wearing an oversized, once-boring lavender sweater that I had almost donated. She had rescued it from the donation bag and, inspired by a trendy shirt she spotted on television, transformed it into a fashion statement by adding a pair of red lips with a Sharpie. With a wide, stretchy pink belt cinching her waist and gray jeggings tucked into last year’s chic black boots from Old Navy—boots I would have snatched up in a heartbeat if they fit me—she looked fabulous. A plaid fedora, tilted just right, completed her ensemble.
Lily adores hats, patterned scarves, and a splash of sparkle—her glasses even have diamond-studded purple frames. These accessories help her stand out positively at school, a place where she has often been noticed for the wrong reasons.
Diagnosed with ADHD and a mood disorder around six years old, Lily has come a long way with treatment. Although she still faces challenges, she no longer jumps up from her seat every few minutes or interrupts class with off-topic comments. She raises her hand (most of the time) and follows directions better than before. Yet, remnants of her earlier reputation linger. Some classmates still perceive her as the troublemaker or the odd one out.
Despite being intelligent, Lily struggles to keep up with her schoolwork. Organizational issues, difficulty focusing, and slow information processing mean her assignments take much longer to complete. She knows she can’t go through five pages of a book as quickly as her peers, and she’ll never finish 50 multiplication problems fast enough to join the Math Champs Club.
As any parent would, I yearned for her to shine academically, especially since both my husband and I were straight-A students in our youth. Initially, it was tough to accept that Lily wouldn’t automatically follow in our footsteps.
However, I eventually shifted my focus from grades and future college prospects to nurturing her many talents, especially her vibrant creativity. I see it emerging when she sings in chorus, crafts imaginative stories about her adventures on Fantasy Island, or draws her signature brightly colored, wide-eyed fairies. Increasingly, she expresses herself through her fashion choices.
The compliments she receives for her outfits have undoubtedly boosted her self-esteem. While she may not look forward to school, stepping into her classroom dressed to impress makes each day a little less daunting.
Living with a budding fashionista has its challenges. Lily’s insistence on wearing the perfect outfit often leaves her room resembling a disaster zone, with piles of discarded clothing strewn about. This obsession has also caused us to be late to school on more than one occasion. But when she feels good in her clothes, her confidence shines through, making any inconvenience worthwhile.
As she approaches middle school, Lily is crafting a new identity—one I hope will support her through the tricky tween years. She’s becoming known as the girl with the stylish outfits, the creative mind, the girl with flair. These are labels she wears with pride, just like her favorite boots and sparkling glasses.
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In summary, embracing Lily’s unique identity has allowed her to flourish, focusing on her strengths while navigating the complexities of growing up.
Keyphrase: A Label for My Daughter
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