Dear Little One,
I’m currently 28 weeks and counting into this journey of pregnancy. Time has flown by, and I can feel your strength increasing with each passing day—a little kick here, a gentle nudge there. It’s surreal to think that I’m nearing the finish line of what has, for the most part, been a smooth experience. I’ve avoided morning sickness, adverse symptoms, and mood swings (at least that’s how I see it!). Strangers have only recently started to inquire about you, and while my friends notice my expanding belly, I know my experience has been relatively mild compared to others.
Here’s the honest truth: despite carrying you for nearly seven months, I still don’t feel that deep bond with you. While my love for you is undeniable, it feels more akin to the compassion I have for a stranger in need. It’s disheartening because, in reality, you’re not a stranger. I can predict your movements; I know you’ll kick at the heart monitor and then squirm away from it, or be particularly active at night when I’m trying to settle down. Yet, despite this knowledge, I still feel like I don’t fully know you. You are my daughter, but that connection hasn’t fully formed yet.
I’m certain that moment will arrive the instant I see your face and hear your cries. Imagining your features fills me with emotions reserved for those I hold dear. But right now, you feel more like a passenger in my daily life—an innocent observer of my ups and downs (and I’m sorry for the stress you’ve witnessed!).
Please know that I am terrified of losing you. The fear of “What if something happens to the baby?” looms over me like a dark cloud. When I dig deeper into this fear, I realize it stems from my worry about never getting the chance to truly know you. This feeling of uncertainty makes me confident that once you’re born, everything will change.
So, why am I sharing my feelings of detachment with you? Because this is something that often goes unspoken. In today’s social media-driven world, there’s an abundance of posts celebrating pregnancy’s joys and the occasional woes. Yet I’ve noticed that none of the expectant mothers in my circle have mentioned feeling disconnected from their unborn child. Why would they? It’s not the typical narrative.
However, many women face this reality during pregnancy. A simple Google search reveals a wealth of articles offering tips on how to bond with your unborn baby. There are also stories from others who felt the same way, only to experience a profound emotional connection right after birth. Still, for those of us who don’t feel that immediate bond, it can create additional anxiety when we see glowing posts from other mothers. “Is something wrong with me?” “Why don’t I love my baby as much as she does?” “Am I supposed to feel an instant connection?” These questions can be overwhelming.
I may seem like the last mom-to-be anyone would expect to feel this way, but here I am. If you ever find yourself in this position, know that it’s okay. This phase is temporary, and it doesn’t make you a bad mother.
I eagerly await the day when I finally feel that bond with you.
With all my love,
Mommy
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Summary
The author shares her candid feelings about the lack of a deep bond with her unborn child, despite being 28 weeks pregnant. She expresses love but acknowledges that it feels more like compassion for a stranger. The letter highlights the common yet unspoken experiences of many expectant mothers who may not feel an immediate connection, encouraging those in similar positions that it’s okay and temporary.
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