Purchasing a minivan is often seen as a rite of passage for parents, a loud declaration that you have young children and need to shuttle them around, often against your will. Like many other parents, my partner, Mark, and I found ourselves in this position in the spring of 2006 when we bought a Honda Odyssey. With our eldest, Jake, just two and a newborn, Lily, we opted for practicality. The remote-controlled doors made loading the kids surprisingly easy, especially during those frosty Chicago mornings, and we appreciated the ample space for friends and family. Although it wasn’t the coolest vehicle around, the 12 cup holders were a godsend—perfect for everything from Starbucks to sippy cups—and the entertainment system provided much-needed relief during long drives.
Fast forward eight years, and our kids had grown to 10 and 8. The minivan was showing its age, having endured two harsh Chicago winters, a cross-country move, and countless trips across California. While we kept it in good shape, it became clear that we had outgrown the vehicle. As my kids became more independent and I began to reclaim my pre-mom style, I no longer wanted to be seen driving an aging minivan.
After moving across the state last year, Mark and I decided it was finally time to part ways with our trusty minivan. We didn’t get a Porsche as a joke (though wouldn’t that be nice?). Instead, we settled on an SUV that matched our current lifestyle and had plenty of room for our active tweens during road trips.
Since selling the minivan, I’ve noticed several changes that come with this new stage of life. Here’s what to expect if you’re considering a similar switch:
- No More Group Driving Requests: Whether it’s for Moms’ Night Out or class field trips, you’ll no longer be asked to be the designated driver. You can now enjoy a ride with someone else or travel solo for a change.
- Creative Entertainment on Road Trips: While we relied on the van’s DVD player for longer drives, we’ve transitioned to listening to podcasts like This American Life and Star Talk, playing Mad Libs, and—yes, I confess—bringing along handheld devices. It turns out Minecraft keeps my tweens just as quiet as Toy Story did back when they were little.
- Limited Room for Adventures: Without that extra row of seats, you’ll discover you can no longer pack for camping trips lasting more than a weekend or fit small furniture purchases. Even when the seats weren’t occupied, they provided valuable storage space.
- A Clean Slate: You’ll likely want to keep your new car spotless. After years of dealing with spilled milk, crushed Goldfish crackers, and melted candy that became part of the upholstery, you’ll vow that none of that will happen again.
- The Cup Holder Dilemma: You might find yourself missing those abundant cup holders. Sure, you can fit a water bottle and coffee cup in the front, but you’ll realize that perhaps you should have just thrown those cups away more often.
- Nostalgia for the Minivan: Despite your previous reluctance to be identified as a minivan mom, you’ll fondly remember the good times: trips to Disneyland, school events, and even the chaotic moments like getting pulled over for speeding during a desperate bathroom break. Your kids grew up in that minivan, and now another family will create their own memories in it.
- Acceptance of Your Family Size: Swapping the seven-passenger van for a five-seater SUV makes it clear that you’re done having babies. The new vehicle may have room for a small dog, but it’s a definitive sign of moving on.
While my new SUV may not be the trendiest car around (some of my child-free friends drive flashy sports cars), it feels so much better than the minivan. I finally feel like my vehicle matches my personality. I could be a mom or just a woman who enjoys wearing sunglasses and belting out tunes from my favorite college rock station. Until the kids hop in and start bickering, that is—some things never change.
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In summary, trading in your minivan can lead to newfound freedoms, creative ways to entertain your children, and a clearer sense of your family’s future. As you embrace this change, you may find that the transition brings both nostalgia and excitement for what lies ahead.
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