Trigger Warning: Discussion of Childhood Abuse
In small towns, nothing stirs excitement quite like an away football game. Our bus was a whirlwind of laughter, pom-poms, and youthful gossip as we headed to Mobile, albeit with the looming shadow of what would become another disappointing loss. With our spirits high and school pride in abundance—perhaps fueled by the remnants of glitter spray cans—the mood was buoyant.
As the conversation shifted to boys, an impromptu game of Truth or Dare emerged. Having spent enough time with these girls, I knew that choosing “dare” could lead to trouble. So, I opted for truth, fully aware that my life’s narrative wouldn’t provide anything scandalous.
“Alright, Jessica… what’s the farthest you’ve gone with a guy?” The anticipation hung heavy in the air as my peers leaned in, eager to hear my confession. Unfortunately for them, my answer brought a chorus of boos and a few flung pom-poms.
The truth? I was only in second grade when the abuse began, still cuddling my stuffed animals tight. His shadow would creep into my room while I tried to convince myself that closing my eyes could make him disappear. My neon yellow dinosaur was my only source of comfort during those dark nights.
On the bus ride home, tears silently streamed down my cheeks. My friends likely assumed it was just the loss that hit me hard, but I was grappling with much deeper pain. By ninth grade, I was ready to confront my past, setting in motion a chain of events that would irrevocably change my life.
Fast forward to senior year, every Wednesday in History class was dedicated to Current Affairs. We’d gather around a laminated table, armed with plastic scissors, tasked with summarizing articles from the newspaper. I remember rushing to the table that day, flipping through the pages, only to find a heartbreaking article that cut deep. A well-known figure in our community had been arrested for sexually abusing a minor, and my classmate, oblivious to my internal turmoil, commented with horror, “Ew, how gross is that?”
The trial coincided with graduation, an ironic twist that brought both relief and dread. My secrets were splashed across the news, but at least I could see the end in sight. A plea deal was struck swiftly: guilty without prison time. I thought my trauma was over.
But, as I later discovered, that was merely the beginning. College became a battleground for my unhealed wounds, leading me to make poor choices in an attempt to numb the pain. I sought solace in dark corners, failing classes and straining friendships. While I understood the consequences, I was unaware of the reasons behind my behavior—I was shattered, and broken pieces don’t always function as they should.
For years, I toyed with the idea of sharing my story. I’ve always believed in the power of authentic narratives—those that resonate with heartache yet lead to triumph. So why did I struggle to articulate my experience?
Gradually, I’ve come to see that surviving abuse is not a victory in itself. The pain lingers, and I’ve come to terms with the fact that I may never fully overcome it. A pivotal moment transformed my childhood forever. Yet, my true triumph lies in my commitment to confront the aftermath of that trauma as a mother, a partner, and a person.
Life doesn’t always adhere to neat narrative arcs. Yes, I am fortunate to be happily married, blessed with a beautiful child, and surrounded by love. However, gratitude doesn’t erase the scars of the past.
My message is for anyone willing to listen—whether you’ve experienced abuse or know someone who has. Your trauma may differ from mine, but the experience of being a survivor is universal. It’s vital to recognize that survival doesn’t mean the absence of pain; it means learning to navigate it. It doesn’t rewrite your history; it empowers you to shape your future. Surviving is not about turning misfortune into something sweet; it’s about acknowledging the bitterness yet still holding onto hope for brighter days.
Eventually, the pain may resurface less frequently as you cultivate a life filled with joy. While shadows may linger, your resilience as a survivor shines through, fueled by an unwavering belief in the light.
If you are a survivor, remember that there’s no shame in your experience. Your story belongs to you, and whether you choose to share it or keep it private is entirely your decision. Know this: you are not alone, and healing is possible. Life may throw challenges your way again, but it will always get better—trust that.
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