Many of my patients have mentioned that they’ve watched “A Birth Story” to prepare for childbirth. This is akin to saying you watched “The Princess Bride” to understand marriage. Trust me, the actual experience of giving birth is nothing like a 22-minute dramatization!
A common misconception is that many women enter labor fully convinced they will opt for an epidural and, therefore, prepare for the pain as if it were optional. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. Let’s break down the truth about childbirth pain.
1. Childbirth Pain is Inevitable
Almost universally, every woman who gives birth will experience pain at some point, even with an epidural. Why? You won’t receive an epidural until you’re in active labor, which typically means being four centimeters dilated. Why is four centimeters critical? Studies indicate that women who delay receiving an epidural until they reach active labor are less likely to undergo unnecessary cesarean sections. And trust me, you definitely don’t want an unnecessary c-section.
How long does it take to reach that four-centimeter mark? You could endure hours, or even days, of contractions leading up to it, and those contractions can be intensely painful. IV pain medications have limited effectiveness and usually only provide relief for the first couple of doses, which last only a few hours at most. Thus, you might find yourself facing significant discomfort before getting your epidural.
2. Epidurals Aren’t Always Perfect
An epidural involves a long needle (which you won’t feel due to prior numbing) being inserted into a space in your spine about as thick as a human hair. A thin catheter is then placed in this space to deliver pain-relieving medication. Ideally, an epidural should numb the pain in your abdomen and legs symmetrically. However, this isn’t always the case—about 5-8% of the time, the relief isn’t balanced.
Due to individual anatomy, the catheter may shift to one side, leading to numbness on one side while the other still feels labor pains. Your nurse will attempt to reposition you to alleviate this issue, but it doesn’t always work. In some cases, you may find certain areas—known as “windows”—remain untouched by the medication, which can be frustrating.
3. Epidurals May Not Provide Relief When Pushing
A shock for many is when they reach the pushing stage, only to realize their epidural feels ineffective. This can happen because the epidural may not effectively block the pain from the nerves affected by the descending fetal head. Unfortunately, no amount of additional medication will help; you’ll just have to push through it.
Preparing for Pain
Understanding what to expect in terms of labor pain can empower you to prepare adequately. That’s why I recommend birthing classes. Today’s classes have evolved from the old-fashioned methods of “hee-hee-hee” breathing. Modern instructors teach relaxation techniques that help you gain a sense of control during what can be an incredibly overwhelming experience. You’ll learn about the biology of birth, which helps demystify what’s happening to your body, and a good instructor will prepare you for potential medical procedures during your hospital stay and what to anticipate once you’re home.
I often liken labor to swimming in a rough ocean. When you first enter the water, the waves toss you around, and it can feel chaotic. Similarly, labor is a natural force that moves through you beyond your control. Our instinct when facing pain is to retreat from it, but with labor, tensing up only amplifies the discomfort. The key is to try to relax and not resist the process.
Knowledge is empowering, and facing the unknown can be daunting. But trust me, the real challenge is not in childbirth but in dealing with the reality of it—which is best left for those who actually have to experience it.
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Summary
Childbirth pain is an inevitable aspect of the birthing process, and while many women anticipate relief through an epidural, it’s essential to recognize that pain can still persist. Preparing for labor by taking modern birthing classes can help you navigate this experience more effectively. Remember, knowledge is key to feeling empowered during this life-changing moment.
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