In the year following my divorce, one term has frequently emerged in my conversations with friends and even in discussions with potential partners regarding my single mom status. People consistently refer to me as a “badass.” Initially, I was puzzled by this label. To me, a badass conjures images of someone bold and edgy—perhaps adorned in black clothing, with tattoos and a fierce demeanor. As a 34-year-old suburban mom managing two children with a meal-planning calendar and a strict 10 p.m. bedtime, the term didn’t seem fitting.
However, I’ve come to realize that when multiple people point out traits about you that you may not see in yourself, it’s worth acknowledging and embracing. Here are 12 signs that you might also embody the essence of a badass single mom:
- You Display Courage on Your Journey. Courage doesn’t equate to being fearless; it’s about facing challenges despite your fears. As Anne Lamott wisely said, “Courage is fear that has said its prayers.” You may not be confident every moment, but you inherently know that you can handle whatever life throws at you.
- You’re a Master of Accomplishment. Managing household tasks—like taking out the trash, ensuring bills are paid, and keeping everything in order—is no small feat, yet you tackle it all independently.
- Your Worth is Self-Defined. Rather than seeking validation from others, you focus on personal growth and self-improvement. The opinions of your ex or others do not dictate your value; only you can do that.
- You Live According to Your Own Standards. The priorities that matter most to you take precedence, and you unapologetically disregard what doesn’t align with your values. For example, while you prioritize healthy meals, you might not mind if your kids’ outfits don’t match.
- You Prioritize Self-Care. Whether that means skipping social events to recharge or budgeting for a gym membership, you understand the importance of taking care of yourself. You recognize that self-care is crucial for your ability to care for your children.
- You’re Comfortable Handling Solo Parenting. From laundry to doctor’s appointments, you manage all the responsibilities of parenting without needing another adult’s support.
- You Stand Firm in Your Beliefs. Whether negotiating with attorneys or setting rules at home, you maintain your stance. Children may test boundaries, but they recognize your authority and respect your decisions.
- You’ve Grown Stronger Post-Divorce. The lessons learned from your experiences have fortified your resilience. You’ve reached a point of gratitude for the insights gained and the new life you’re building.
- You Celebrate Your Achievements. Whether it’s acquiring new skills or advancing in your career, you openly acknowledge your accomplishments without diminishing their significance.
- You Practice Authenticity. You express your true feelings, even when they’re difficult. If a friend asks how you’re doing and it’s been a tough week, you share your reality instead of masking it with a facade.
- You Reject Victimhood. Regardless of the hardships you’ve faced, you refuse to see yourself as a victim. You understand that while you may not deserve the pain inflicted, you choose to move forward, finding strength in adversity.
- You Demand the Respect You Deserve. After a challenging relationship, you’ve honed your ability to identify when someone is not valuing you. You insist on being treated with the respect and love you deserve, paving the way for a brighter future.
In conclusion, embracing your identity as a badass single mom means acknowledging your strengths, celebrating your journey, and valuing yourself above all else. For additional insights on navigating motherhood and insemination, check out this resource on pregnancy and consider exploring this guide on home insemination for further information.
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