“Make the most of it,” a woman in line at the grocery store remarked, “It truly goes by in a flash.” This sentiment is one I’ve encountered frequently, often expressed in various forms: “It’s over before you know it,” “They grow up so fast,” or “You’ll blink, and she’ll be a teenager.” If I received a burrito for every time someone has implied that I’m not fully cherishing every moment of motherhood, I would be incredibly stuffed and quite uncomfortable. If you’re a parent, you likely resonate with this experience.
Initially, these comments triggered frustration within me, especially during chaotic moments—like when my toddler was preoccupied with a snack in the cart while I navigated the store’s aisles, or when I was visibly exhausted, mismatched socks and all, trying to manage my active child. Often, these remarks seemed to come at the most inconvenient times, as if the speakers were suggesting I should be more grateful, despite my evident struggle. My usual response was a hurried, non-committal acknowledgment, eager to escape before an impending meltdown.
However, I’ve since gained a deeper understanding of these well-meaning comments. They reflect the speaker’s own experiences rather than my parenting style.
Just the other night, as I cuddled with my now 19-month-old daughter, she went through a whimsical list of goodnight wishes to her toys and family members. In that moment, I reflected on her rapid development—her vocabulary expanding daily, her growing ability to express herself, and the new phrases she constructs. It’s astonishing how quickly time passes.
Of course, parenting isn’t solely about the joyful moments. There have been significant challenges along the way: the early days of breastfeeding, the seemingly endless witching hours, postpartum anxiety, and the inevitable tantrums. Yet, all these experiences—both the joyful and the difficult—have unfolded in what feels like mere moments.
It’s akin to riding a thrilling roller coaster, filled with exhilarating highs and daunting drops. You prepare for each change, yet simultaneously dread it, fully aware of the fleeting nature of these years.
In that fleeting moment of reflection, I remembered the intense journey of bringing my daughter into this world—the labor that felt both eternal and ephemeral, the overwhelming wave of love upon her arrival, and the bittersweet realization that each moment is precious and transient.
The woman in the grocery store likely reminisced about her own experiences, reflecting on the first milestones and the moments that brought her immense joy amidst the challenges. She was perhaps expressing a mix of nostalgia and empathy, wishing for moments she may have missed.
Consequently, when someone advises me to cherish every instant because before I know it my child will be heading off to high school, I’ll respond with genuine appreciation: “Thank you, I will.”
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In essence, parenting is a whirlwind of experiences that teach us to treasure each moment, both the rewarding and the challenging.