“Has he started school yet?”
This question has been a constant since my son, now 2, began walking. It comes from all corners: fellow parents at the playground, curious caregivers, and family members I rarely see.
What is it about preschool that fascinates so many people?
I don’t hold a strong opinion on the preschool debate; I believe in what works best for each family. Many parents need to enroll their children in full-day preschool due to work commitments, while for others, it simply isn’t financially feasible. For those who choose preschool, it can be a delightful experience for children, as well as a welcome break for parents. My older son attended preschool, and it was indeed a positive experience.
However, I struggle with the notion that toddlers must undergo formal schooling; that failing to start early somehow puts them at a disadvantage for their educational future.
The Urgency for Early Schooling
This leads me to question: Why the urgency for early schooling? Is there something I’m missing? Many preschool programs market themselves by promising an educational framework for little ones. When my older son was in preschool, I even received progress reports highlighting his developmental achievements.
I find this misleading.
What Should Toddlers and Preschoolers Be Doing?
What exactly should toddlers and preschoolers be doing all day? They can explore the garden, discovering ants and learning about nature – that’s science. They can run around, counting dandelions – that’s math. They can rummage through books until they find the one with the big red truck – that’s reading.
It’s not that I avoid teaching my children or deny that learning can occur in various environments. If they show interest, I’m more than happy to introduce them to shapes, letters, and numbers at an early age. Both of my children have shown curiosity, which makes it enjoyable. But many children aren’t inclined towards formal learning at young ages, and that’s perfectly fine too.
The Role of Structured Learning
Having observed numerous toddlers together, I can attest that when they are all wiggling around on the floor, tossing plastic food at each other, structured learning is unlikely to occur. Any organized instruction at that age is much more effective on a one-on-one basis or through hands-on experiences.
While preschool certainly provides a fun environment for social interaction, it isn’t the only avenue for that. Playdates serve similar purposes, and kids learn simply by exploring their surroundings, being read to, having conversations, and enjoying unstructured playtime.
My Approach to Education
As a (mostly) full-time mother, I have the luxury of taking a laid-back approach to education. My son will turn three this fall, and I haven’t enrolled him in preschool. He doesn’t seem ready yet (he’s also six months younger than his older brother was when he began). We will remain active with regular activities that involve other children, and I will definitely take advantage of some babysitting breaks to maintain my own sanity (thank you, Aunt Sarah!).
Most importantly, I want to embrace the freedom that unstructured time offers him. I will observe him learning in his unique way and at his own pace. I will guide him through numbers, letters, and stories as long as he shows interest. I will prioritize teaching him about kindness, love, and friendship.
Considering Preschool in the Future
If he expresses interest in preschool down the line (and if it fits our budget), I may consider enrolling him at a later stage. However, I won’t pressure him into it and will keep realistic expectations regarding its role. I recognize that preschool can be enriching, yet it remains entirely optional—not an obligatory step in a child’s educational journey. Exploration, learning, and play with peers can thrive even without formal schooling. I hope more people begin to understand this and acknowledge the myriad valuable ways children can learn and grow.
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Conclusion
In summary, the choice to send a child to preschool is deeply personal, and it’s crucial to recognize that there are many pathways for children to learn and thrive outside a formal educational setting.
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