As a parent, I recognize my tendency to raise my voice. There’s an undeniable allure to cutting through the chaos with a loud command, and the brief silence that follows can feel almost euphoric—akin to the stunning vase that collects the funds I might eventually allocate for my children’s future therapists. However, I genuinely dislike yelling and aspire to minimize it. Hence, my modest New Year’s resolution is to refrain from yelling at my kids for a complete 24 hours.
The secret to successfully maintaining a New Year’s resolution often lies in keeping it manageable. Rather than committing to sweeping changes, it’s more effective to take small steps toward a larger objective. That’s why I’m setting a goal of one day without yelling. This seems like a feasible challenge that I can build upon. My intention isn’t to eliminate yelling from my parenting entirely; some situations do warrant a raised voice, and let’s be real—perfection is not realistic.
While I don’t yell at my kids every single day, I grew up in a household where shouting was the main form of communication, and I find myself inadvertently adopting this language with my children. Despite its effectiveness, yelling lacks kindness and would likely benefit us all if I could reduce its frequency. However, there are significant challenges in abstaining from raising my voice for an entire day.
For instance, the hours between midnight and 6 AM are notorious for late-night yelling. Once your child reaches a certain age, nightly awakenings at 2 AM become far less tolerable. Initially, you may feel sympathy for your child’s nightmares, but by the fifth week, you might find yourself exasperated, wondering what it takes to convince them that monsters aren’t real. Resisting the urge to yell “go to sleep!” at that hour is incredibly challenging, as the frustration feels akin to a scene from a gripping drama.
Morning routines can be equally chaotic, filled with disputes over misplaced shoes and the ever-present challenge of getting kids to brush their teeth. I might find myself needing to adopt a meditative posture just to maintain my composure. Although I typically don’t yell during school hours, the moment I pick them up, the familiar struggles return. One of the most reliable times for children to act out is during the drive home from school, where they oscillate between being missed and immediately bickering.
Let us not overlook the homework and dinner time, which often become prime opportunities for frustration. To avoid yelling, I lean on a “natural consequences” approach. If they choose not to do their homework, they can explain their decision to the teacher. If they opt not to eat dinner, they may find themselves hungry. While my children may be hungry and uneducated at times, at least I won’t have to raise my voice.
And then there’s bedtime, which can feel like a split personality experience. When tucking them in, I am filled with love and gratitude, but as soon as I leave the room, requests for “just one more hug” or “a glass of water” can quickly transform the situation.
In summary, there are numerous justifications for raising one’s voice throughout the day, but I aim to capitalize on fewer of those opportunities. I will need to find alternative outlets for my frustration—perhaps I’ll take up knitting tiny garments for pets. More likely, I’ll just scream into a pillow instead.
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