Let me share a little secret: I’ve been grappling with some not-so-great thoughts. Firstly, I want to emphasize how much I adore my mother. However, when Mother’s Day rolls around each year, it seems to revolve solely around my mom and my mother-in-law, leaving my role as a mother to four incredible kids feeling somewhat overlooked.
Is it just me, or do other moms feel this way too?
For the past quarter-century, my Mother’s Day tradition has involved inviting my mother, my extended family, and my mother-in-law with her relatives—usually a crowd of 15 to 20 people—to a delightful brunch that I host. Sure, there have been a couple of occasions at my sister-in-law’s lovely home in the desert, and let’s not forget the few mishaps at restaurant brunches that left us all agreeing that home is the best place for such gatherings.
While it’s a lovely compliment, it’s also a double-edged sword. After handling all the planning, invitations, cleaning, decorating, shopping for gifts, and preparing food and drinks, I often find myself just trying to survive the day. It’s quite the stressful endeavor, especially since my youngest son’s birthday usually coincides with Mother’s Day. Just what I need—another celebration to juggle!
I must thank my husband and kids for their help with the cleanup. Once the chaos subsides, I finally get to sit down with a mimosa in hand, attempting not to doze off. My mother and mother-in-law have both been incredible influences in my life, and I owe them so much. Yet, it often feels like everyone assumes I’ll take care of all the details on this special day.
I’m torn. I deeply appreciate my mother, who is now 85, and treasure our moments together. I know that when my time comes to be honored as the mother of the day, it’ll be bittersweet.
But not this year! Our youngest son is currently studying abroad in Italy, and my husband and I are seizing the chance to travel and meet up with him. That’s right—we won’t be home for Mother’s Day! I can’t express how relieved I am to be free from brunch responsibilities.
I’ve happily informed the family that someone else will need to handle the three types of quiches (vegetarian, gluten-free, and applewood bacon), the Chinese Chicken Salad—with chicken on the side, please—the assorted bagels and lox, the fruit platters, and champagne. I’ll be toasting to all of you with a refreshing glass of Orvieto Classico while enjoying a delightful antipasti. Ciao!
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In summary, Mother’s Day can bring a mix of emotions for many moms. While we love our mothers and appreciate their sacrifices, it’s essential to carve out space for our own recognition as mothers. This year, I’m relishing the opportunity to enjoy the day in my own way—far away from the brunch chaos!