As someone who doesn’t drive, I frequently find myself fielding questions about what life is like without a car, especially as a parent. Many people simply can’t comprehend how one can manage daily life, let alone parenting, without a vehicle. Let me share my perspective on this unconventional journey.
First and foremost, it’s not the overwhelming hassle that many assume it to be. While it certainly comes with its challenges, I’ve found that it can also be quite manageable. Living in a bustling city has always afforded me the convenience of public transportation, which has only become more accessible over time.
I spent my formative years in Chicago, where public transit was a vital part of everyday life. As a teenager, I lived in a neighborhood with easy access to multiple train lines. It was often quicker to walk to a station than to wait for a friend to pick me up. Later, during my college years in Philadelphia, I lived on campus for the first two years before moving to an apartment just a short walk from my classes. I even opted to pay a bit more for rent to avoid the hassle of commuting.
When I made the leap to move to San Francisco, people were genuinely taken aback that I would do so without a car. This city has a reputation for being car-centric, yet I’ve been able to navigate most of my daily needs without significant difficulty.
“Honestly, you should really learn to drive,” is a common refrain I hear, especially since reaching adulthood. As if I’m unaware of the benefits that come with being able to drive! While I recognize that driving has its advantages, the fear of getting behind the wheel is very real for me. The thought alone sends a chill down my spine. A few years ago, my cousin Maya attempted to teach me how to drive. Initially, it felt exhilarating, but soon enough, anxiety kicked in, and I was left sweating at the thought of it. Since that day, I’ve avoided the driver’s seat altogether.
Surprisingly, not having a car has its perks. For instance, parking in urban areas can be a nightmare. In a city like San Francisco, where parking is often limited, the struggle to find a spot can be maddening. Many apartment complexes don’t come with designated parking, which can lead to frustration. My current living situation, in a small building without parking, has turned out to be a blessing in disguise.
There are also environmental benefits to consider. By not owning a vehicle, I’m not contributing to traffic pollution or depleting natural gas resources. While there are eco-friendly vehicle options available, my choice to remain car-free significantly reduces my carbon footprint.
The most significant advantage? The financial savings. My monthly transportation costs hover around $100. In contrast, owning a car would mean expenses that include gas, insurance, and maintenance—costs that can quickly add up and deter many, especially those of us who are budgeting tightly.
Of course, there are downsides, too. Relying on public transport can sometimes lead to delays that are out of my control. As a punctual person, this has been challenging, especially with a child who may misplace shoes or need bathroom breaks right before we head out. Such small hiccups can lead to missed buses or trains.
Errands can pose a challenge as well. Typically, I either rely on rides from friends or consider using rideshare services when the budget allows. Thankfully, my friends are often willing to help, recognizing the logistical challenges that come with my situation.
Who knows? Perhaps one day I’ll conquer my driving fears and find myself in a position where having a car becomes feasible. Until then, I’m perfectly content standing at the bus stop or train station, soaking in the world around me. Plus, public transportation offers a unique window into the diverse lives of others.
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