After months of struggling to help our daughter, Emily, with her homework—where 30 minutes of work felt like a three-hour marathon—we reached a breaking point. Her grades were slipping, and teachers frequently mentioned her difficulty focusing in class. The homework she couldn’t complete during school followed her home, and despite our best efforts, we felt like we were losing the battle. It was time to consult a professional.
Emily was eight and had faced academic challenges for as long as we could remember. However, it was in the third grade that subjects like reading, writing, and math seemed to become insurmountable obstacles for her. Homework piled up week after week, and I often found myself sitting next to her at the kitchen table, encouraging her while she fidgeted, doodled, or stared off into space.
We tried various methods to help her stay focused—frequent breaks, positive reinforcement, and rewards. Yet, the reality was overwhelming; managing her schoolwork consumed our lives. Eventually, we found ourselves in the office of our pediatrician, a spirited woman in her 50s, with a stack of completed questionnaires from us and Emily’s teachers.
With Emily present but our other two children at home with a sitter, the doctor reviewed our files and noted, “She’s exhibiting all the signs of ADHD. I’ll provide you with some resources to help Emily succeed academically, and I recommend exploring an Individualized Education Program (IEP).”
Then she broached the topic of medication. “I understand that some parents are hesitant about ADHD medication, but I’ve seen it have remarkable effects on many children.” My partner, Sarah, looked at me, her expression firm and resolute—she was against the idea. I, however, had seen firsthand the positive changes ADHD medication could bring during my years working in education. But this was not just my decision or Sarah’s; we had to consider Emily’s feelings as well.
On our drive home, we discussed our apprehensions and conducted some online research about the medication, weighing its pros and cons. Reflecting on my own experiences in school—where I likely had ADHD but was never diagnosed—I realized how much I wanted to avoid a similar fate for Emily. I had struggled through remedial classes and graduated barely able to type, let alone read a novel. I shared this concern with Sarah: “I don’t want that for Emily.”
For weeks, we debated, sought advice from teachers and friends, and even asked Emily what she thought, only to receive a nonchalant shrug in response. Ultimately, we decided to allow our family doctor to prescribe Ritalin for Emily, to be taken only on school days.
The following week, I returned home to find Emily diligently working at the kitchen table, crafting an outline for an essay about her love for school. She was so engrossed in her task that she didn’t notice me enter. “How long has she been at it?” I asked Sarah.
“About 15 minutes,” she replied. It felt like a breakthrough; I had never seen Emily focus on schoolwork for that long without distraction. “Do you think the medication is helping?” I inquired.
“It must be,” Sarah agreed.
Months later, thanks to the combination of medication and the IEP, Emily is thriving. While she may not have straight A’s, she’s completing her assignments and passing her classes. Homework that once consumed our evenings and weekends now takes less than an hour each night, allowing us to enjoy more family time.
One Tuesday evening, I returned home late from work to find Emily still awake in bed, reading with a flashlight. “I finished all my homework!” she exclaimed, her gap-toothed smile radiating joy. For the first time, she seemed to view homework not as an overwhelming burden but as an achievable task. As her father, I felt a deep sense of pride and fulfillment in that moment.
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Summary
Navigating our daughter Emily’s ADHD diagnosis and the subsequent decision to use medication was a challenging but crucial journey. After months of struggling with schoolwork, we sought professional advice and ultimately decided to pursue medication, which has led to significant improvements in her focus and academic success. Our experience highlights the importance of parental collaboration and informed decision-making when addressing ADHD challenges.