I’ve inherited various quirks from my father: my uncanny ability to read a room, my outspoken nature when faced with ignorance, and my complete lack of patience for tardiness. Along with these traits, I also got his cleft chin, a passion for Italian cuisine, and an undeniable love for historical novels.
And yes, I also got his curly hair.
Throughout my life, people have told me that women spend significant amounts of money to achieve the lovely curls that naturally adorn my head. However, I suspect that the desire for curly hair waned after the ’80s, when big hair went out of style, and women began to embrace sleek and straight looks.
As a child, my curly hair led to some rather unfortunate school photos, primarily due to the limited hair products available to tame the frizz. Although I eventually found ways to manage my curls and accepted that I would never attain Meg Ryan’s iconic hairstyle, I often found myself envious of those with straight locks.
Having curly hair demands preparation. For curly-haired women, achieving a simple “wash and go” is virtually impossible. While I’ve grown to appreciate my curls as part of my identity, I won’t deny that I’ve contemplated shaving my head more than once. Once I became a mother, my curly hair became an even bigger challenge. Let’s face it: no mom has the luxury of time to style unruly hair when a toddler is demanding attention and an infant is clinging onto her.
Let’s just say that I’ve worn more than my fair share of baseball caps since embracing motherhood. If you also have curly hair, I’m raising my bottle of deep conditioner in solidarity, because you know exactly what I mean.
1. Epic Bedhead
For the first year of my daughter’s life, I fluctuated between resembling the Bride of Frankenstein and a character from a sci-fi film. With sleepless nights and showers often happening late at night, waking up with wet hair was a recipe for disaster. When my husband jokingly asked, “What’s up, George Washington?” I knew I had a hair situation.
2. Short Hair Isn’t an Option
Curly hair is also a sensitive barometer for humidity; the more moisture in the air, the bigger your hair gets. When it’s long, it’s often easier to manage with a ponytail or bun. So, when the urge strikes to cut your hair for a few extra minutes in the morning, you quickly regret it.
3. Diaper Costs vs. Hair Products
I’ve known my hairstylist for over a decade, and there’s a reason she’s on my holiday card list. She has managed my curls, but the cost was much easier to handle before I had kids. Once diaper expenses came into play, those luxurious hair products that kept my curls in check were the first to go. Suddenly, I found myself looking like a disheveled mess while my kids used the money I would’ve spent on my beloved curl cream.
4. Weather Woes
As moms, we spend a lot of time outdoors—whether it’s sitting under the sun at a soccer game, dashing into a store during a downpour, or getting windblown at the park. For curly-haired moms, bad hair days seem to be a never-ending saga. I’m convinced that Mother Nature must have straight hair. I know moms who have opted for baseball caps for years just to avoid the chaos of humidity.
5. Kids and Curly Hair
Your children often inherit your curls, which can turn bath time and hair brushing into a nightmare. While detangling sprays have improved, no amount of product can erase the drama of a toddler with tangled curls. Sorry, kid; you’ll just have to hold still.
Despite the daily challenges of managing my curly hair, I still envy those whose hair remains perfectly styled throughout the day. However, on those rare occasions when the humidity is just right, and my curls cooperate, I find joy in the bounce they give me. Plus, my curls serve as a sweet reminder of my father, bringing a smile to my face.
But seriously, anyone with straight hair should think twice before wishing for my curls—they might just get a love tap from my flat iron!
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Summary:
Women with curly hair face unique challenges, from managing epic bedhead to navigating the costs of hair products versus baby essentials. Humidity wreaks havoc on hairstyles, and short cuts often lead to regret. Despite the struggles, many find joy in their curls, which serve as a reminder of family ties and personal identity.