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Why Childhood Friends Matter So Much
Is there anyone who understands you quite like your childhood friends? I’d wager that the answer is a resounding no. If you’re fortunate enough to have childhood friends who are still close to you today, it’s likely that your bond runs deeper than anything you could find with others. Not even your parents. Not even your partner.
Growing up alongside someone, sharing secrets, navigating awkward phases, experiencing heartbreaks, and celebrating victories creates an unparalleled connection. These shared experiences lay the groundwork for a relationship that evolves, regardless of the paths life may lead you down.
I count myself lucky to have several childhood friends I still cherish. We share a treasure trove of inside jokes, know the nuances of each other’s families, and can instinctively tell when it’s time for a “huddle”—whether that means a weekend getaway filled with fun or just some wine and gossip.
One of my dearest friends, my confidante and soul mate, is tying the knot this fall. She’s found a wonderful partner who has an incredible son, and it’s such a joyous time in their lives. Because of our history, my happiness for her is profound. Sometimes, I find myself misty-eyed just thinking about how she’s longed for “the one” and has made all the right choices (though right is subjective) to reach this milestone, and I get emotional, even while driving to grab donuts on a Sunday morning.
While I can certainly be happy for others, this feeling is different. I’ve known her since our handball games during elementary school recess. I’ve been there since we were barely old enough to drive, loading my rusted old car for beach trips just because we could. I’ve seen her through college, where she had to teach me the basics of laundry. We’ve both endured heartbreaks that made us question if we’d ever find true joy again.
We’ve weathered storms together and faced challenges separately, but we’ve always supported each other, through good times, bad times, and the mundane moments in between. That’s the essence of true friendship—it’s about showing up for each other, with no hidden agendas, just mutual respect and love, knowing that your souls are intertwined.
Friendship with childhood companions eliminates any pretense. I can’t hide my struggles from them; they know my history, my vulnerabilities, and how I react when life gets chaotic. I can’t brush off their inquiries with a simple “nothing.” They see through it and will call me out, which can be irritating but ultimately feels wonderful to know someone cares enough to seek my truth and lift me up, refusing to let my fear of vulnerability keep them at bay.
Moreover, loyalty runs deep in these friendships. Don’t even think about crossing my friends because the consequences won’t be pretty. Hell hath no fury like a woman defending her childhood best friend. I can certainly tell them if their new partner gives off bad vibes or if their child is misbehaving, but if you’re a stranger who doesn’t know anything about our bond? You better tread carefully.
The beauty of childhood friendships is that no matter how much time passes, reunion feels effortless. There are no awkward introductions or stilted silences; you dive right back into the rhythm of your friendship, excited to catch up and share a laugh (because no one knows how to make you laugh quite like your childhood crew).
Of course, I’ve made other friends over the years who may not have tossed a ball around with me in third grade but still hold significant places in my life. I value and support them, and I will defend them fiercely. Yet, they don’t know me like my childhood friends do, and that’s perfectly alright. I don’t need everyone to recall my unhealthy obsession with boy bands, where I once waited outside in freezing temperatures for NSYNC tickets (more than once, mind you).
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In summary, childhood friendships are irreplaceable. They shape who we are and provide unwavering support through life’s ups and downs. They remind us that we have people who truly understand us, making our journeys richer and more meaningful.