Ladies, it’s high time we had a real conversation about sex. Specifically, let’s discuss how we often overlook this essential topic in our friendships.
I’m not referring to the playful quips about how sex can feel like a chore or the well-worn stereotype that men are always ready while women struggle to keep up. We’ve all experienced those Moms’ Night Outs where conversations drift toward the challenges of our partners’ libidos or how sheer exhaustion can drain us of any desire.
Yes, we’ve all been there—those nights when we feel anything but sexy in our well-worn yoga pants, or when we haven’t washed our hair in days. And let’s not even get started on how toddlers crawling into our beds complicate intimacy. But let’s face it, ladies—we are still having sex, albeit less frequently than we might desire, and it may not resemble those passionate evenings from our dating days. But let’s be honest: it can still be enjoyable!
I want to share that despite being a busy mom, I’ve had some incredible sexual experiences since becoming a parent. Yet, why is it that we still shy away from discussing our sex lives openly with friends? We’ll spill every detail about our postpartum experiences but shy away from sharing a thrilling moment we had after our toddler finally fell asleep in their own bed. What’s holding us back?
It’s time we break free from the outdated notion that “good girls don’t talk about sex.” Women often harbor feelings of inadequacy or embarrassment regarding their experiences in the bedroom. We lean on our best friends for support when we feel overwhelmed as mothers or when we encounter personal issues. Wouldn’t it be refreshing to hear our friends discuss sexual positions or experiences that might help normalize our own desires? Absolutely!
As clinical sexologist Mia Harper emphasizes, “When we talk candidly about sex, we are normalizing the pleasure we can experience with our own bodies.” Many women feel broken when intimate moments don’t meet their expectations. By sharing our stories—both the euphoric and the painful—we can learn from one another and enhance our sexual experiences.
So, let’s get real, ladies. Let’s tackle the awkward subjects that make us blush to reduce that embarrassment. Let’s openly discuss the best techniques for oral sex, whether we prefer to spit, swallow, or outright refuse to engage. Sharing these experiences can foster a sense of normalization around our sexual encounters.
Topics like masturbation, clitoral stimulation, and the use of sex toys should not be taboo. By discussing what feels good, we empower ourselves to explore new horizons in our intimate lives. Imagine discovering a technique from a friend that takes your sexual pleasure to an entirely new level!
Considering that a significant number of women have explored anal sex, it’s likely that some of your friends share this interest. Wouldn’t it be comforting to know that you’re not alone in what brings you pleasure? While communication with our partners is essential, there are certain aspects of our bodies and experiences that only other women can truly understand. From nursing struggles to the bloating that comes with our monthly cycles, our closest friends have been through it too.
So, don’t hesitate to bring up sexual topics the next time you’re with your girlfriends. I guarantee that the conversation will flow because our BFFs always have the best insights.
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In summary, let’s embrace the opportunity to discuss sex openly and honestly. By sharing our experiences and insights, we can encourage one another to explore and enjoy our sexual lives fully.