March 2, 2023
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Warning: This article includes strong language and discusses active shooter scenarios.
As I packed my son Lucas’s backpack for school this morning, I found myself grappling with a moment of sheer panic. While untangling his dog tags from a strap, I was reminded of the importance of keeping him safe in an active shooter situation. Lucas’s diabetes supplies—his d-bag—are crucial for his well-being during emergencies; it contains juice and candy to prevent low blood sugar, extra insulin, and even an EpiPen for severe allergic reactions.
Yet, as I jingled the dog tags in my hand, it hit me: the noise could put him at risk in an urgent situation where silence is paramount. What would happen if he were in lockdown and needed to stay quiet? The thought is terrifying.
You might think the solution is simple—just buy new dog tag silencers or switch to a different identification method. However, it’s not that straightforward. Lucas has always resisted wearing medical alert bracelets, which only identify him as having diabetes without acknowledging his autism. The dog tags were a compromise that worked, but now I’m left with a dilemma.
The real concern goes beyond the tags. Lucas is a vibrant, energetic child who rarely stays still. If he were instructed to be quiet and still in an emergency, how would he cope? His natural inclination to move, talk, and stim—often through humming or pacing—could make it difficult for him to comply with such directions.
I found myself at a loss, wondering how to teach him the critical importance of silence without instilling fear. Fortunately, I recently came across an insightful article featuring two educators who are also special needs parents. They developed an Individualized Emergency and Lockdown Plan (IELP) to complement students’ IEPs. Their approach includes identifying strengths, sensory needs, and communication challenges, which can help keep children safe during crises.
Some aspects of this plan were already integrated into Lucas’s IEP, particularly concerning his medical needs. However, the autism perspective had never crossed my mind before. Rest assured, I will raise this topic at our next IEP meeting, especially their practical suggestions like using social stories and conducting practice drills.
One of Lucas’s unique strengths is his lack of fear, which is both reassuring and alarming. While he may not be afraid of the dark or hiding, I worry about how he would react to the sound of an alarm or gunfire. Would he freeze in fear or respond by yelling?
His biggest challenge lies in following directions. Although he has a vast vocabulary, he often struggles with focus and requires redirection. In an emergency, would he understand the importance of hiding quietly? If he perceived it as a game, he might respond inappropriately, leading to potential danger.
From a sensory angle, Lucas typically isn’t a chewer, but he does have a security blanket he uses for comfort. Perhaps I should consider including a small, comforting item in his bag for emergencies. I plan to discuss these strategies during upcoming parent-teacher conferences.
I reached out to his teacher, expressing my concerns about whether they had conducted drills before. Thankfully, she reassured me that they practice safety drills regularly, referring to them simply as “safety” drills. She confirmed that Lucas participates and follows directions without exhibiting negative reactions, which I take as a positive sign.
Amid thinking about Lucas’s safety, my younger son, Ethan, experienced a lockdown drill at his preschool this week. At just four years old, he is already being exposed to these frightening realities. I appreciate his school’s proactive measures, but I’m anxious about how he will process this experience. He is sensitive and has already shown signs of anxiety, particularly regarding his brother’s medical issues.
There are days when I question whether I made the right choice in bringing children into such a chaotic world. However, I remind myself of the need for change, inspired by the youth who are advocating for a safer future.
Ultimately, I hope for a day when these drills become unnecessary, and I can breathe a little easier knowing my boys are safe.
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Summary
As a parent of a child with ASD, ensuring their safety during active shooter incidents is a daunting task. While traditional safety measures like emergency drills are essential, understanding the unique needs and strengths of your child can help. Engaging with educators to create tailored plans can be crucial, as can the support of resources dedicated to parenting and safety awareness.