Recently, I found myself on a phone call with my wife, Sarah, while at work. My responses were mostly half-hearted, filled with “uh-huhs” and “sure,” indicating my mind was elsewhere. Just as I was about to wrap up the conversation with a casual, “I need to get back to work,” she interrupted me and firmly stated, “I’ll let you know when I’m ready to end this call.”
After nearly 15 years of marriage, I’d never heard her say anything like that. Both of us had endured a tough week. I was deep into the semester at the university where I work, putting in long hours, while Sarah was busy managing our household and taking care of our kids. When she calls me at work, it’s usually for something important, as she often struggles to find a moment to talk at home. I understood all this, yet I still felt the urge to cut the conversation short.
Reflecting on this, I realize there’s no valid excuse for my behavior. Earlier that day, I had given a co-worker my undivided attention for a solid 20 minutes discussing their weekend plans. But when it comes to my wife, I often feel rushed, dismissing her need for connection.
For those of you who can relate, I understand that not everyone has the luxury of stepping away from their work to take a personal call. However, I have my own office where I can close the door and focus on my partner without distractions. Our conversations rarely last more than 10 minutes, yet I still find myself eager to end them.
When Sarah said she wasn’t ready to hang up, I didn’t take it to heart or feel overwhelmed by the typical work-life struggle. Instead, I recognized her frustration and the respect it took to express it. I knew she wouldn’t say something like that without a reason. So, I took a moment to truly listen to her because when your spouse—the love of your life—reaches out, it deserves your full attention.
I closed my office door, set aside my work, and focused on her. We discussed our children, scheduled a meeting with our daughter’s teacher, and addressed an urgent issue with our bank account. All of this transpired in about 10 minutes. At the end, Sarah apologized for her earlier tone, saying, “I just dislike when you’re not fully present.”
I let out a sigh, realizing how minimal her request was. “Don’t apologize; I’m the one who owes you an apology,” I replied. “I’ll make a conscious effort to improve.” She thanked me, and we both returned to our respective tasks.
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In summary, prioritizing our partners—even amidst the chaos of work and family—is essential. Taking a moment to listen can strengthen our relationships and enrich our lives.