As a mother, particularly of boys, there are certain comments from strangers that can really grind your gears. You know the ones: “Shouldn’t you be more strict?” or “You really ought to do [insert unsolicited advice here].” While constructive feedback is welcome, no one appreciates being told that someone else’s parenting style is the “right” way. Parenting is a personal journey, much like politics; we all have our views, and it’s crucial to respect each other’s choices, even if they differ from our own.
Having spent over five years as a proud mom, I’ve come to realize a fundamental truth: what works for one child doesn’t necessarily work for another. Each child is unique, and that’s a beautiful thing. Recently, someone cheerfully suggested, “You have two boys? You should try for a girl,” which brings me to the first comment that irks many moms of boys:
1. Are You Planning to Have a Girl?
As if there’s a magical store where I can select my daughter! The answer is no. I tell my kids, “You get what you get, and you don’t throw a fit.” I’m grateful for my two boys; not every woman has the privilege of being a mother.
2. Boys Are So Rowdy!
Of course, they are! Thanks for pointing out the obvious. Don’t all kids have their moments of wildness? Boys, girls—kids are kids, after all. Mine are definitely wild, especially being just a year and a half apart. Together, they create quite the chaos, and I’m fully aware of that.
3. Boys Tend to Leave Their Moms for Their Wives.
Here’s a reality check: I know plenty of girls who have complex relationships with their moms. In my experience, boys rarely harbor resentment towards their mothers. Whether my boys decide to leave or not is irrelevant; kids grow up and move on to new adventures. It’s part of the natural process of growing up!
4. Boys Can Be Stinky.
Oh really? Tell me something I don’t already know. Isn’t it true that everyone has their off days? Girls don’t come equipped with some magical gene that makes them immune to smelling bad!
5. Aren’t You Disappointed You Can’t Braid Hair or Use Bows?
Honestly, I struggle to find two matching socks! Do you really think I’m going to become a hair-styling expert? Besides, who knows what interests my kids will develop as they grow.
In the end, both boys and girls are incredibly special in their own right. I never had a specific vision of what kind of children I wanted; I just knew that I wanted kids. When I became pregnant and had boys, I felt it was a blessing. I have fully embraced my role as a “boy mom.”
Raising boys has introduced me to a world of joy I never experienced while growing up. Whether it’s playing in the dirt, riding skateboards, or crashing toy trucks, it’s all part of the fun. My rambunctious boys are loving and adventurous, and I cherish every moment with them.
I can’t predict the future, but what I do know is that my job is to raise them to be kind, respectful, and responsible individuals. The sex of my children doesn’t matter; it’s all about nurturing good people in today’s challenging world. If they carry the lessons I’ve taught them into their future, I will consider my role as a mother a success.
So please, save the “you need a girl” comments. My life is complete with my boys, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. If you’re interested in more parenting insights, check out this piece on home insemination kits. Also, for expert advice on parenting, visit Modern Family Blog. For more information on pregnancy and home insemination, Healthline offers excellent resources.
Summary
Moms of boys often hear repetitive, unsolicited comments that can be frustrating. From questions about trying for a girl to assumptions about boys’ behavior, these remarks can feel tiresome. Embracing the joys of motherhood, especially with boys, is essential. Every child is unique, and the journey of parenting should be respected for its individual nuances.