Dear Olivia,
There will come a time when you’re curious enough to search for me online, and I hope you stumble upon this list of essential life lessons I want to share with you. Instead of tucking it away in my closet with forgotten treasures, I’ve decided to put pen to digital paper.
I apologize for not being the scrapbook-making type of mother. I hope that when you read this, you’ll embrace my advice rather than dismiss it as just another quirk. And please, for the love of all that is good, think twice before posting revealing selfies online. Just… don’t.
Lessons I Want My Daughter To Know:
- Always strive to conduct yourself like a lady, but remember that there are moments when it’s necessary to break that mold. If you do lose your temper, make it impactful. Once it’s over, tidy up your appearance, refresh your lipstick, and move forward.
- You are beautiful. Embrace your uniqueness. However, remember that your character and the way you communicate will define you far more than looks alone. Spend just enough time on your appearance to feel confident, and invest the rest in being the kind of person others genuinely enjoy.
- Authenticity is key. I want you to feel so secure in your identity that you can be your true self at all times. That person is amazing—don’t hide her.
- Some women might try to bring you down. Choose your friends wisely; surround yourself with those who uplift and support you. Seek out companions who make you laugh until you cry and share in your sorrows when needed. With such friends, the negativity from others will sting less.
- Critics will always be present. One day, you’ll reach a point where their opinions won’t matter. Until then, it’s okay to feel hurt.
- Remember, you owe no one anything. If someone makes you uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to assert yourself.
- People may underestimate you. Focus on surprising them with your intellect rather than seeking temporary praise for your looks. Anyone can be attractive, but no one else can be YOU.
- Your father and brothers will likely make dating a challenge. But if a guy can earn their respect, he’s probably worth your time.
- If you like someone, feel free to date him. There’s no obligation to marry him, even if he proposes.
- You come from a lineage of strong women. I expect you to honor that legacy by knowing yourself, standing firm in your beliefs, and staying true to who you are, regardless of life’s challenges. When in doubt, refer back to point #3.
- Please wait to have sex until you are genuinely ready for the responsibilities that come with it, including potential motherhood. Don’t have children unless you’re with the man you want to raise them with. And above all, continue your education until you are employable. Yes, I emphasized that for a reason.
- Even if something doesn’t come easily to you, engage in different activities. In time, you’ll discover what brings you joy and where your talents truly lie.
- If you’re dissatisfied with your current situation, take steps to change it.
- And finally, invest in a proper bra fitting. It’s worth every penny—good foundations can make a world of difference.
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In summary, my dear Olivia, these are the life lessons I hope you embrace. You are capable, strong, and deserving of a fulfilling life.